Final fitting drama

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

No one is meaner to fat people than other fat people. Clearly your aunt has some issues regarding her own weight, and she must be an unhappy person if she has to make other people feel bad about their weight. 

Use her negative energy as positive energy for yourself. You have plenty of time to lose enough weight for your dress to fit. Cut out carbs, take more walks, only drink water, and stay active and healthy. You’ll feel and look better for all your efforts. And then on your wedding day, you can thank your aunt for the motivation and suggest she do the same.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

gemchick82:  Ummmm…who is she kidding?  If I read your post correctly, your aunt is bigger than your mom?  WHAT A BITCH!  Let me ask you – does she have all boys or are you the first one to get married?  Just wondering b/c my aunt always made snide comments to and about me growing up b/c I was everyone’s favorite.  I was the baby, I was always excelling at things growing up, the only one to go to college on that side of the family and by no fault of my own, she had a real chip on her shoulder towards me my whole life.  

I’m sorry she had to ruin that day for you!!  Ugh…do yourself a favor and don’t bring her next time!!   

 

Post # 5
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339 posts
Helper bee

gemchick82:  That was mean and rude of her and I would have said it to her right there and then… I’m also plus sized and struggling with weight loss and everytime someone says something about my weight that is unsolicited and unnecessary I usually shoot back with a nasty reply. Its not like we dont know this already… We have to look at ourselves everyday. Dont feel bad because someone has no tack or a filter for their mouth.

On another note, you are not a failure! Some things are just harder for some than others. I have tried damn near everything, including going to a trainer and the results I see sometimes are minimal. It takes a lot of time and dedication but you can do it! Sometimes we just need someone to do it with us or encourage us and when we hear comments like the one from your aunt we often get dispondent. Keep you chin up! and dont listen to her. Im sure you can lose 10 lbs by your wedding with no problem. You just need someone to encourage you… Im here if you need me!

Post # 6
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2661 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

First, I think 45 days is plenty of time to healthfully lose 15 pounds.  That should make the dress fit more comfortably.  Just watch your carbs and walk every day and drink lots of water.  🙂  Cut any alcohol and soda (even diet is the devil and the enemy of weight loss if you ask me…which you didn’t)….

Second, your aunt was being mean.  What she said was inappropriate.  I hope you can ignore her and move on.

Thrid, you are what you are, and your FI loves you, despite any flaws.  I have decided I don’t  have to look perfect on my wedding day.  I’ll try to look my best, but I am not Heidi Klum.  I am me, and I am not a super model.  My FI loves me and thinks I am beautiful, flaws and all.  So, I guess what I am saying is try not to stress and try to let the happiness of the day be the most important thing you wear!

Post # 7
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

So sorry she said such a hurtful comment to you. I think all shapes and sizes are beautiful even if our world tends to work against that. 

Maybe you can post pictures for us and we can shower you with love and tell you how beautiful you look! I am sure you look amazing! And you will look even more amazing on your wedding day when you are feeling bridal! 🙂

Post # 8
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9533 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

What a bitchy thing to say! I also managed to gain weight during the wedding planning process, so I’ve been there. But, honestly, there are so many more important things to worry about on your wedding day, I’d try not to worry about your weight. You’ll look beautiful and have so much fun. It goes by so quickly I don’t think I looked in a mirror for more than about 20 seconds on my wedding day – there was too much else to do!

Post # 10
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

gemchick82:  Wow you look gorgeous 🙂 I love the unique details on the dress and I think it looks very flattering on you!!!! 

Post # 11
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1432 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Thats a very flattering and pretty dress! Ignore that silly aunt! Although I think you look great it in right now, honestly, listen to PP and focus on eating really clean and green and eating less for the next 45 days. Nothing drastic, but really, I think regardless of whether you actually lose anything, you will FEEL so much better on your wedding day if you know you tried your hardest. I know that I feel much better when I’m debloated and eating healthily even if I weigh the same as always. You will be beautiful no matter what, don’t worry!!!

Post # 12
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2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

“You first, Aunt Berta.” or “Looks like you need to stop talking.” or both 🙂 

Post # 14
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312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

gemchick82:  I wasn’t going to bother to comment until I saw your photos. You look so great that it got my lazy ass to log in so I could tell you so! That’s a wonderful dress, it flatters you tremendously, you look curvy and gorgeous, and your aunt sounds like a miserable joykilling shrew. Ignore her. Rock your beautiful self, and know that you’re going to make your FI’s jaw drop in that gown!!

Post # 15
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330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

gemchick82:  you are so beautiful! I will never understand how people can be so nasty. it’s your day don’t let her ruin it.

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