Post # 1
Ugh, I am so disappointed in myself to be writing this, but I’ve been battling dress regret all throughout this journey and now my final fitting is tomorrow and I think it’s gotten the best of me.
Getting another dress isn’t really an option and I think I just have to suck it up, but I guess I’m just writing this to get it out there. I don’t have anyone at home to tell this to, because I’m afraid they’ll think I’m a brat for not liking a $1,200 dress (plus $500 for alterations).
I had my second fitting last week and the dress desperately needs to be pressed. I lost 25 lbs after purchasing this dress and was positive it would help me fall in love with it and instead, I feel like losing weight has made me like the dress even less. The pleating on the neckline doesn’t look as good as it did when it was my size, plus, I think they took it in a bit too much and now it feels too tight on me. Like, to the point where I couldn’t comfortably breathe. I’m going to go back on weight watchers to lose another 5lbs, but I didn’t even get to really enjoy the fruits of my labor from losing 25 lbs.
I had bought two veils for this dress, because I wasn’t sure which would go best. The one I liked the best was the wrong color and the other one just looks awful, so now I have no veil. I said I couldn’t bear the thought of spending more money on this, so I just said I would go veil-less.
I also tried on the dress with a slip, which I thought was too puffy for the skirt of the dress, screwing up the pleating which I did like and so, I took out a layer of tulle in the slip. Now I’m afraid the dress will need to be hemmed or something when I try it on again tomorrow.
This is the only aspect of the wedding I’ve been stressing over. I don’t know what to do to make myself feel better. I’m afraid I’ll hate the way I look on the day-of or in my pictures. What is wrong with me???
Post # 3
im sorry youre deaing with this 🙁 dress regret is the worst. If it help, ( and it probably doesnt ) I think it looks lovely. If youre still bimmed, Have you thought of an affordable option for a reception dress? Perhaps you could divide your photos between the 2 dresses?
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Unless you want to sell that dress and buy a sample, the only advice I can give you is to remember that it’s a dress and will in no way affect the fact that you’re going to get married and be ridiculously happy about it.
Post # 5
Oh wow you have a lovely figure. I’m not really sure what to suggest, other than trying to look at preloved and ebay sites or an affordable reception dress from a highstreet seller- monsoon uk ship to the USA and have some lovely quality and relatively cheap dresses and I’m sure there are places where you could get something quickly?
Could you borrow a veil from someone? or again look at ebay? It sounds like you’re dissapointed with the whole thing rather than just a single element.
Post # 6
I think it looks great on you. It’s a beautiful gown.
Congratulations on your weight loss!
I think your dress would look nice with a plain veil with a blusher, which isn’t too hard to make. If you’re absolutely determined to go veil-less, a nice hat or hairpiece would pair really nicely.
It does sound like the root of your disappointment is something other than the dress or your look. Sometimes when your body changes a lot it takes time for the mind to ‘catch up’.
Post # 7
I think your dress is really pretty.It looks great on you to me.Could you sale the veils and buy another one?
Post # 8
@csteen85: I think it looks really nice!
Take a deep breath and try to put things into perspective. You will be wearing this dress for a FEW HOURS. You won’t ever wear it again. It cost almost $2,000. Is it really worth all this worry?
Post # 9
Wow- you have a gorgeous figure! Congrats on the weight loss:) I’m sorry about your dress regret:( What made you fall in love with the dress in the first place- was there a different dress you had in mind that you can’t stop thinking about? I had dress regret as well and had to pay an extra $1100 for my dream dress. Not sure what to do in your case- you could try shopping and buy off-the-rack and have rush alterations done- it is possible! Not sure what your budget allows. I know it’s only a couple hours that you wear the dress, but it’s hard to waer something you aren’t in love with. Try for the last-minute shopping- that’s what I would do if I was you. It’s worth a shot! You have a gorgeous figure and I bet a bunch more dresses will look awesome on you now that you wouldn’t have considered pre-weight loss. Let us know what you decide to do! If you live in Vancouver, I would totally go with you!! Imho, you look so pretty in this dress:)
Post # 10
what don’t you like about it? I think it looks great on you! I don’t see any issues with the neckline – if it’s too tight and uncomfortably, have her take it out a bit.
Post # 11
I love your dress and it shows off your beautiful fugure! The top detailing and at the waist are so pretty. I know it’s what you think that matters. Just thought that I would share my thought’s. I too had dress regret so many times. Seven weeks before the wedding I found a sample dress on clearance for 199.00 and it was way more beautiful on me than all the others I tried! When I look at my pictures and video I love it even more. I’m still a newly wed…was married on December 1st 2012. But the point is that you look so gorgeous although I understand how you feel. Let us know what you decide and how you end up feeling.
Post # 12
@csteen85: I think the dress looks gorgeous on you and really accentuates your figure. As for a veil, is there a friend that is already married that you could borrow a veil from? Just a thought…and I think you might feel better about it once it is done being altered and it is steamed. And also adding accessories will help too! 🙂
Post # 13
@Old Hollywood: Actually, I wound up doing exactly what you did. Here I am, 38 days to go and I just bought a sample gown. I’m much happier with my decision and am working on selling my original gown. now, I’m just on the hunt for a sash.
Post # 14
I am so happy to hear that you did what you thought was right and that you are happy. It’s so important to feel amazingly beautiful on your Big Day! If you would like please show us your new dress. I’m so excited for you!!
Post # 15
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
Honestly, I think you’re being too hard on yourself. You look absolutely gorgeous! If it feels really tight, just drop a couple pounds of water weight and you’ll be much more comfortable. The same thing happened to me with my bridesmaid dress for my brother’s wedding. During the fitting, I felt like if I took a big breath, I would break the dress! I ate sensibly for the week before the wedding and it actually felt loose on the day of! Take a deep breath and remember that the important part is marrying your soulmate. None of the rest matters.
Post # 16
@Old Hollywood: Here’s the dress I chose. I got it for $400 off the rack and I am just on the hunt for a sash for it, but even if I don’t find one – I think it’ll look beautiful with my veil.
I was dancing around my house last night when I put this on for my mom, which is something I did not have the desire to do in my original dress, lol.