- 4 years ago
- Wedding: November 1999
So – for those of you who don’t know my story and want to – read on. If you don’t – skip to the bold paragraph 🙂
DH and I were coworkers who both went through nasty divorces and befriended each other afterwards. As our friendship was turning to more, we faced our first tragedy. His 2 year old daughter drowned while in the custody of her mother. I stood by him and we got through that as a couple and never looked back. I helped him win custody of his other child and we married. Us and our 3 boys (his 1, my 2) were so happy! Then just 20 months later my youngest son died in a tragic accident (He was playing a game the kids call The Choking Game where you make yourself pass out – if you have kids/nephews/nieces/friends with kids please TALK TO THEM ABOUT THIS! PM ME FOR MORE INFO!) after 4 days on life support they declared my sweet boy brain dead and we buried him a week before his 14th birthday. Now – I did NOT deal well with this. I pushed everyone away including DH and his son and they moved out for 15 months. Believe me when I tell you, hive, it came to the point that it was OVER. Then something changed – I don’t know what but I began to feel peace again… and I wanted my husband home. On our anniversary last year I told him I was ready to be the wife he had spend the last 15 months fighting for. Because he did, girls… he FOUGHT. Every single day he refused to NOT be my husband and he did it. He won. I can honestly say that the last year has been incredible. We have committed our lives to each other and our family and we are so in love all over again. You CAN fight through the hard times and come out a better couple than you started. We did that.
That said. We decided that to mark our “recommittment” to each other and our marriage we would get new rings to use in a vow renewal. I bought him one that was tungsten with a dragon celtic pattern on it that he likes and will wear sometimes. He bought me 2 new half-eternity channel set bands and reset my original stone in a wider cathedral band instead of the thin tiffany-style band it was in before.
How do I know he’s a keeper? (Well, besides the fact that he never gave up on our marriage, our family, or me…) he also took the original 2mm band from my original e-ring and had my mom’s stone – I shared it in a previous post as a .25 carat round pendant – set in a simple bezel on that band as a RHR stack starter! So I can have part of our original set blended with something from my family history and made a NEW ring that I can wear all the time. Did I mention that I’m completely in love with this man? He adores me – always has and always will. I’m so blessed.
BTW – DH LOVES THIS SET. He chose it with me… and last night when we picked it up he confessed that he never liked the other set but wanted me to be happy. HIVE – When I tell you I got goosebumps when he picked up my hand and told me that THIS was how he envisioned my hand looking as his wife. Tears.
Now for the RING PORN!!!!
(Ignore the green reflection – it took me 15 minutes and 4 locations to figure out it was the reflection of my lime green otter box – yes, I’m a little slow on the uptake sometimes! HAHAHAHAHAHA!!!)
I’m in LOVE, bees. I have NEVER looked at my hand and felt more content and perfect. When DH looks at it he smiles – that smile melts my heart. THIS is the symbol of my marriage I will wear forever. <3