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    Minutiae    May 2011  

    No, I'm not engaged yet. BUT. And this is a big BUT. 

    I am very excited to announce that finally, after many months of cleaning, deliberating, agonizing, and pulling paperwork out of his shady-government-job ex wife like victory from the jaws of defeat, my boyfriend has a settlement date and will be moving out of his house at the end of October!

    Know what that means? That means that:

    1. He will be moving closer to me...either five minutes away or half an hour, which is a huge improvement over an hour and a half.

    2. He will be able to, in his words, "move on with my life." Which is code for "slap a ring on that hand of yours and get on with the show."

    EEEEEE!

    *bounces up and down*

    I'm so happy! Things are finally happening!!

     
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    lovehim    April 3, 2011   toronto, canada

    Oh YAY!!!!!*bounces up and down with you*

    glad to hear things are going in the right direction

     
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    tea       norcal

    that's fantastic news! yay for you two! 

     
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    naangel55    June 20, 2009   Long Beach, CA

    Congrats!!

     
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    MsWhiskersLouise       Los Angeles

    Yay! Congrats on moving forward! I'm right there bouncing along with you!

     
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    Chachacha    June 2010   Minneapolis, MN

    That's so great! Congrats!!!

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I know you must be sooo excited!!

     
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    Miss Sydney    September 3, 2011   Sydney, Australia

    Oh wow!!! I know how much he has been struggling to get things sorted out! That is amazing news!!

    Good luck!!!

     
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    Sulli301    June 26, 2010   Michigan

    Congrats!

     
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    Minutiae    May 2011  

    Thank you, hive! That's why I love this community so much. You know exactly where I'm coming from! Waiting for a ring is full of ups and downs, haha. 

    The only time he'll get a chance to move out before settlement is this Sunday, so he's in the midst of a frantic search for a rental place. We were talking about the pros and cons of renting near his work versus renting near me, in my area, and he asks me "What's your gut reaction to all of this? What's on your mind, what crazy thoughts are you thinking?"

    Gut reaction: Yay! We'll be rid of your beyotch ex for good, we can be close, and finally frickin' get married!

    Then I remember. Crud. Christmas challenge!

    "Ooooooooooh...I just...want you to finally get out of that house, and be able to move on with your life?"

    "I'm serious, how do you feel about all of this?"

    "I'd rather not say. Hahaha. Seriously, I just want you to finally close that chapter and have some liberty."

    Alas. All conversational roads lead to engagement!

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    LMBO!! I think I would have cracked: my response would have been: WE CAN FINALLY START OUR LIVES TOGETHER I LOVE YOU SO MUCH AND CANNOT WAIT FOR US TO MOVE FORWARD!!

    And then I would have been in the Christmas thread going oops I fell off the wagon AGAIN!!

     
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    RecessionistaBride    January 28, 2012  

    Congratulations!! LDR suck! I'm always happy when couples who are far apart finally move closer to each other because I'm patiently waiting for the day my FI isn't 3 planes away.

    I'd stop bashing his ex though... move forward! He's done with her & can be with you... enjoy it, don't dwell on all the crap that happened up until this point. You'll do yourself a big favor the sooner you forget about it :) 

     
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    Minutiae    May 2011  

    Eek! Update on the housing situation. Since he won't have enough time to find a place and get everything in order by Sunday, he'll be staying with me at my parent's place for a few weeks! Now that's a LOT closer, haha.

    @RB: Admittedly, I'm the slow to anger, slow to forgive type. My SO virtually *never* says a word of complaint, so his family and friends tend to be angry for him in his situation, haha. It's not like their marriage ended because they couldn't work things out over the years. I'll just be glad when the winter has passed and he no longer has to deal with it anymore!

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    oh how awesome is that that he'll be with you!!! CONGRATS.. now remember you have to be errr well quiet in the rents house but have bunches of fun to celebrate....

     
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    Minutiae    May 2011  

    Unfortunately two of my siblings are still at home, another comes home on breaks, and he's going to be in the spare bedroom anyway. This aint living in sin, it's 'living under the hawkish gaze of the family!'

    That's why we've been celebrating while we pack up at his place. :P

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    LMAO!!! Oh gosh that's insane!! We are going home for Christmas and I am pretty sure we're getting a hotel room because err well I want my Christmas gift from Santa!! And I'd feel insane trying to get it at my mom's house!! That's just mortifying to me!!

    How long is he staying with you at the 'rents house?

     
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    His Barista    September 4, 2010   Spokane, WA

    oh, wow. haha. Congrats on the settlement and I hope everything goes okay while he's at your parents. = D

     
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    waitingbee    September 4, 2010   California

    Congrats, enjoy this time it is so wonderful. When we go home to visit my parents I find it rather exciting to sneak around and find ways to be "closer," have fun with that.Wink

     
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    Minutiae    May 2011  

    Phew! Looooong weekend. I spent Thursday packing, most of Friday unconscious in class, Saturday packing, and Sunday helping the guys load the trailer and move/unpack at home. They had to make a second trip today for some big leftovers (his TV, piano, and the blackjack table he made), but I couldn't go because of class. :(

    And he's already mentioned going ring shopping and watching Travel Channel for the Ireland/British Isles shows (Ireland is my preferred honeymoon destination). Laughing

    Life is GOOD!

     

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