Finally Broke with MIL (Update-Part 2)

posted 3 years ago in Relationships
Post # 4
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585 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@megz06:  Congrats on him standing up to his mom…! My SO is just starting to… Good luck, fingers crossed! 

Post # 5
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2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Whoohooo! So proud of your husband for standing up to his mom!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Wow good for your DH. He needs to start standing up for your family. This cannot continue from here on out!

Just for kicks…does she expect to be in the delivery room with you? Yell

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@megz06:  This was my face when I read that very last update:

 

So very proud of your husband! He has come a long way! Of course it’s never easy standing up to your parents and when they use guilt instead of anger it’s even harder! *applause* 

 

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Yay! I am so glad he stood up to her. Update us as soon as you can about how it goes this weekend!

Post # 9
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1666 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@megz06:  If she continues to insist on having things her way then just ignore her and go about your business. Seriously. You guys have said it time after time. You have given her ample warning. If she doesn’t want to listen to you then she can deal with sitting around miserable all day because she made plans that didn’t accomodate the ones you both already had – which she fully knew about it and ignored anyway.

And your DH needs to step it up more. I’m glad that he’s making progress, but seriously. He’s a grown man and he needs to start standing up to his mom for his pregnant wife’s sake. If she’s this bad now how bad is she going to be once baby is in the picture? Is she going to demand every holiday, birthday, and weekend be spent with her so she can have special Grandma time with baby? Is your family ever going to be able to see the baby if she monopolizes him/her all the time? Is that really what your DH wants for his child? No? Then he needs to do something about it now!

(Sorry if I sounded harsh or angry, I just feel bad for you and the baby)

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@megz06:  Ugh so frustrating. Hope he can step it up and set some boundaries and that she starts respecting them.

I know it’s so hard to deal with but try and keep on being patient and supportive of him. I am the one with the difficult mother in the relationship, and it is hard to deal with. My husband gets frustrated which I totally understand but it’s not always as easy as just telling them to back off.  I have no issue standing up to my mom, but it doesn’t always mean she respects my wishes and that’s not my fault!  There’s only so many times I can tell her the same thing over and over again before all the drama it causes isn’t worth it.  

Hang in there!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@megz06- holy balls I feel bad for you. You tell her stuff over and over and she still doesn’t listen. I’d be so annoyed with this woman.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Good for him for standing up! I know how stressful this situation can be! Ours is almost identical! 

 

Post # 15
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2562 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Maybe you should stop texting her and start getting on the phone with her and saying these things in person.

saying something in a text is WAY different than saying something over the phone/in person.

I get that it’s hard, but I really feel that texting is the easy way out. You and FI can block her texts and ask her to call you (at a reasonable time) from now on.

Anyway, good luck this weekend – I hope it’s productive!

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