(Closed) Finally decided he's the wrong one

posted 5 years ago in 40 Something
Post # 3
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I am sorry your relationship ended but I am glad you saw the red flags before you married him. I can honestly say your man is out there I found mine at the age of 47 and I am glad I waited. Before I met my now Fiance I had been proposed too 5xs and I knew they werent right for me.

You dont give up on your dream because like you I didnt settle for less than what I deserved because I knew I deserved better than the men who asked me. I found my equal for the first time in my life and I have no regrets because I am older. I am happy because I appreciate our relationship.



Post # 4
30 posts
  • Wedding: January 2014

Im so sorry that you had to call it off. Im sure you have your reasons. You did a brave thing by not comprimisisng yourself. The right man will come into your life..in the Lords perfect timing. I will pray for you.

Post # 5
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ll be praying for you.


Post # 6
8463 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@josie2013:  *HUGS*  It’s never too late to find the love of your life, you just have to pick youself back up and keep trying.  Best of luck!

Post # 10
78 posts
Worker bee

Being older, I have a lot of never married friends in their 40’s. I am divorced. I think sometimes we (*the general “we”) get so caught up in wanting to find the right ‘forever’ man that we try to make any man we date fit in that spot no matter what by compromising more and more of ourselves and try to change us so much  in an attempt to make him work for us. The problem is, he may just not fit. We shouldn’t compromise so much. I find my never married friends did it way more than I did. Of course no man is perfect and both people in a relationship are always going to need to adjust and compromise, but we shouldn’t just take any man that comes along and try to make it work. When the right guy comes along it just will work. It will be easy. We won’t have to compromise so much. Be patient, the right man will come along. Don’t settle.

This comment just comes from my personal experiences with my friends and obviously may not be the case at all for any of the posters here, so I hope I don’t offend anyone, this is just my personal observations from real life.

Post # 11
41 posts
  • Wedding: October 2013 - Manor over a fall

@josie2013:  so sorry, big hug.  

Post # 12
231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I am only 24 but I have had all kinds of awful relationships, I have been beaten and sexually assualted by one ex and just physically abused by the rest. I never thought I would find a man who would treat me worth anything, let alone find someone so wonderful. Everyone has someone they are meant to be with and you will meet your someone special one day. Don’t ever think you are not worthy of being loved because I promise you are xxx

Post # 13
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@josie2013:  My cousin got married for the first time at 44 and just had a child at 46, I don’t think it’s ever too late to find the right person.

Post # 14
11273 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@josie2013:  i am the exact same age as you.  i was in many failed relationships too.  my last one was not good and i stayed too long thinking i may never find someone else at my age.  i finally decided to leave and just a short time later i found my now husband.  i wasn’t even looking and there he was.

i believe it’s better to be alone for the right reason than to be with someone for the wrong.

focus on yourself.  join some clubs or groups.  meet some new friends.  stay busy.

Post # 15
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I know it’s hard, but don’t give up.  It’s never too late to find the right person for you. My step-grandmother was in her late 40’s when she got married, and she and my grandfather were the most loving couple that I have ever known.

Post # 16
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

You’re never too old. I just got married for the first time last October at the age of 44. 🙂  My suggestion is to quit looking for a husband. I know you’ll probably say that you haven’t been looking for one but if you’ve wanted to get married for 20 years then you’ve probably been doing it subconsciously. Enjoy yourself and have some fun. Once you get in touch with yourself and you’re ready you’ll find the one.

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