Post # 1
Fiance and I had a long discussion at dinner last night about my name change after the wedding. I will be 30 when I get married. I know it sounds silly, but I love my maiden name. I truly want his last name but wanted to keep my maiden name too somehow. Neither of us were a fan of hyphenating my name OR making my middle name my maiden name. So we came up with a compromise and I am just so excited. I will have two middle names!
So, here is how it will go:
[first name] [middle name] [maiden name as 2nd middle name] [married name].
Yes, it sounds like a lot but really, how often do you tell someone your FULL name? Most places ask for a middle initial which will be A.R. or just A.
I know some will think this is silly, but it was important to me and I’m glad we came up with a compromise. Best part is that Fiance understood my feelings and came up with this idea.
Post # 3
That’s a great idea! I’m keeping my name, but I have to admit I’ve been considering taking my fiance’s name lately. I probably won’t because my name means a lot to me, however I have considered hypenating. It’s such a hard decision, I’m glad you came up with one that feels good to both you and your FI! 🙂
Post # 4
You aren’t alone! I’ll be doing the same thing.
Post # 5
That might be an idea for me. I’ll have to think about that one.
Post # 6
I have two middle names [separate names, no they aren’t hyphnated]. they were given to me by my mother, after both of my great great grandmothers from both sides of my family [rose & anna]. so i don’t think it’s all that different. but i’m used to it! you really only ever use the first one though.
Post # 7
your name is part of your identitiy and if you feel you need to keep all 4 names, then i think it’s perfectly appropriate! not silly at all. i know people who have kept and incorporated their ex-husband’s names even after they got remarried. they wanted to stay connected to their kids who had the ex’s name.
Post # 8
This is exactly what I will be doing! Originially I planned to drop my middle name and make my maidan name my middle name, but my current middle name is my grandmother’s name who just passed away. I want to honor her and keep it so I’ll be having 4 names 🙂
Post # 9
I’m so glad you guys came to a solution!
I’m taking my FI’s name, but it’s sort of an ugh name, (Shewchuk with a SILENT H so it’s pronounced sew-chuk). I like my maiden name for the sound (McCallum), but I don’t have a relationship with my father, so it doesn’t have a special meaning for me. What I love about my name most is that it’s a “Mc” name. I tried to get Fiance on board with combining our names, taking the Mc of my name and the rest of his name, so it would be “McShewchuk”, but he thinks that’s sounds redonkulus. And I’m sitting there thinking, is it really any sillier than Shewchuk? Honestly ~_~
But he won’t cave, and it’s way more important to him, so Shewchuk it is. And I’ll have a life time of correcting people on the pronounciation. ~_~
Post # 10
Sounds like good idea! Kind of similar, I am leaning towards keeping my maiden name and making FI’s last name my middle name, because it sounds like a female name and I don’t have a middle name as it is.
@MrsVandykins: Interesting story! I personally love the McShewchuk idea! Heh heh.
Post # 11
@IUrebekah3RT: A good friend of mine recently changed her name (she’s been married for two years!)… she does not have a middle name, and so changed her maiden name to be her middle name. Same idea. Love it! 🙂