Finally engaged! Advice needed from brides without wedding planners

posted 3 years ago in Beehive
Post # 2
795 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I did not hire a planner, but I did hire a DOC. She’s only getting involved come April when she makes her intial contact with all my vendors. I think on the day of she’ll be a great asset. I actually loved planning my wedding. I’m super organized and research is my career speciality so it wasn’t difficult to locate vendors in my area, read reviews, do research and follow-ups. I did all the major planning within the first month — the most stressful part was around month 4 with all the little things and details – making sure everything was cohesive and flowed well together. I also didn’t have any help other than FI, but I like it better that way. 

Post # 3
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I dont have a wedding planneretc  but as I’m planning a wedding from overseas, I did make the choice to have a wedding in a venue that would take care of everything (ceremony, food, lighting, linens etc). Plus there’s a venue coordinator person as part of that. There was no way I was going to deal with trying to coordinate the venue, rentals, lighting, caterers on top of everything. 


Basically you don’t need a planner, but it does depend on how complex you want your wedding to be. 

Post # 4
8 posts
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m not hiring a planner, but my venue comes with a Day Of lass, so I’m hoping that will be enough.

However, I have a new job (with much more hours, much higher responsibilities, more intensive patients) so I am REALLY glad I have a super-organized and helpful MOH who makes sure I make it to the venue appointments, has taken me to look @ flowers etc.

So if you are not getting a planner and have a busy lifestyle, I would definitely want there to be an organised person who’s super pleased for you and happy to help (and has the time).

If you feel you have quite a bit of free time to plan the wedding, I would wing it w/o a planner, but that’s just me 🙂

Post # 5
397 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I did not have a wedding planner or DOC. All me! lol. I would still plan it myself if I did it again, MAYBE get a DOC to take care of ushering people around, but really, people aren’t dumb…they know when it’s time for dinner, etc. Plus your venue should have some sort of coordinator for the site anyway. planner helped me stay on track for what needed to be done and when (although I ignored some of the timelines cause they were far less pressing than it would have you believe). PM me if you’d like 🙂

Post # 6
1888 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We’re not hiring one, but check with your venue, ours comes with a coordinator who handles all the planning of the different vendors.  I’d say that before you rush out and hire one, check to see what services your venue includes (an added bonus is that in many cases a coordinator that is associated with a venue will know the ins and outs of the venue).

Post # 7
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

cbj9:  I have not had my wedding yet but I do not have a wedding planner or day of coordinator. So far everything has been very smooth and not super stressful. We made tackled the big things early on, which were the Church and reception venue. We made our guest list and made it clear to the parents that they would not get large amounts of friends since there is not a major amount of space for guest lists after deciding on a budget. I kept the bridal party small so as to avoid much of the drama and all but one is super organized. I just haven’t found the thing stressful as we don’t have to worry about a lot of the decor (I could not care less about the linen colours and other such details, so long as there is something, so the fact that the venue takes care of the decor is a major plus). I guess, basically, don’t sweat and get caught up in the small details just have an idea for the big picture. We only have a few things left to do and we are many months away (flowers, go to the tasting, approve invitation proofs, a few more meetings with the Priest, and hire a DJ). 

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