Finally had the timeline talk..

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

Congrats on getting a timeline! Even if it isn’t as quick as you would like.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Well, it’s a bit after the fact, but this is why you don’t have the timeline talk immediately following some liquid courage 🙂  It doesn’t take THAT long to buy a ring, even when it’s custom!  If you need to have future discussions with him (hopefully you don’t!), focus on legitimate concerns.  Like “I spoke with my doctor about <medical condition> and my ability to have children, and he/she feels strongly that it will take additional time for us to conceive.  Here’s why”. 

It may even help for him to go to a doctor’s appointment with you.  I know it can be uncomfortable, but if the two of you are serious about having children, you’re going to be seeing and discussing icky things eventually.  He may have questions that he wants to ask, and talking to a medical professional may make it easier for him to understand.  He may be thinking that you’re getting overly concerned just because you hit the magical 3-0, when in fact,  you do have a medical issue.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@Roses91:  That’s great you have a timeline- fx it happens sooner than you think it will:)

Post # 8
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Helper bee

@Roses91: most men seem to be very oblivious to timeframes huh? my SO is the same way…I swear he thinks he can buy the ring, propose, and get married in the same weekend if not the same day…*eye roll*

I think you have some great progress! 6 months is very reasonable and it will go by so fast!  I agree with the idea of taking him to the doctor or letting him see what your doctor has to say about your fertility, if he really wants kids that might be the eye opener he truly needs to realize that time is essential here.

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