Ok, here is my best advice for the early days phase…
Let him know you are really really happy that he missed you (so sweet)
Let him know you feel the same about him as he does about you (so he realizes he isn’t putting his feelings out there to have them ignored… takes a lot for a guy to say these things)
And then… start talking about the future
Have you guys shared your LIFE PLANS ?
Do you have a timeline for the future ?
Need to do that, so you both are on the same page… and you don’t end up disappointed that he’s talking 5 or 10 years from now… not 1, 2 or 3
Then you need to realize that altho an ERing is typically “guy territory”…
In so much as we get to plan ALL the Wedding, they dream of planning the Proposal / Ring / Engagement their whole lives
Let him have that moment… BUT don’t do it entirely alone
Tell him you want to make sure he gets the best deal possible (tell him that the Jewellery Biz is uber-competitive, works on commission, and likes to prey on men in love looking for a ring)
So you guys need to work on this as your first Pre-Wedding Project… do research & reading together on Jewellery
Particularily so if you are going to have a Diamond.. so much to know about Diamonds…
4 Cs – CARAT (Size) – CUT (Shape & QUALITY) – COLOUR – CLARITY
as well as CERTIFICATION – CONFLICT FREE / CANADIAN
and the Ss – STYLE – SETTING
Not to mention… 2 more Cs… COMFORT – and COST
And then there is APPRAISAL – and INSURANCE to also consider
2 Sets of Eyes, and 2 Brains… are better than one in this exercise of learning all you can, and weighing all the variables until you find a Ring that works for the BOTH of you.
An ERing afterall does represent BOTH of you in so many ways.
And… My advice to you.
Go Ring Browsing… go try on rings. You can do this without him (GFs)… or with him. Try on lots of different styles, shapes, settings etc.
Everyone’s Fingers / Hands are different. What you see in a Photo isn’t necessarily gonna suit you
It is like buying a piece of clothing… not every girl can wear the same pair of jeans. Just cannot be done. You gotta go try em on.
This is a major purchase… not something to be taken lightly… you will need to LOVE & CHERISH this ring more than any other. You will wear it for a long long time
(Seriously, I wouldn’t buy a top just off the internet / rack sight unseen if it meant wearing it every.single.day the rest of my life)
After that stage…
Then HE can make a decision… either he’ll shop alone (get the sales person to write down the specs / numbers from the rings you like so he can find it again, or you can show it to him on-line) … or you guys can go together.
But this is all stuff you need to talk about.
For some couples the Engagement is when he asks (as that is technically all a man need do)… for others the clock starts when they put the ring on the finger…
That part is up to you guys… (well more him) on how the Proposal / Engagement will all come together.
Enjoy the ride… it is a sweet one… this being soooo over the moon in Love.