- 6 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Since getting engaged less than a month ago, the planning began, of course. This whole time I’ve been trying to mold our styles, budgets, desires, etc. into what other weddings I’ve been to and FI has been to have been like, and it was making me stressed. I was thinking, “Well, this is how we like it/can afford it, but so-and-so had it like this, so how can we swing it more like that…” Things like that.
And then, after perusing pictures, blogs, writing down what we want, I realized, “hey, this is our wedding!” This finally happened last night.
Our theme is vintage-thrifty. We have a budget. We don’t want fancy. We like the idea of making things ourselves and it’s OK that it looks that way. We want casual (but no jeans and sneakers, please and thank you!), we want people to have fun and mingle at the reception. We like tradition, but rules can be bent and broken to fit who we are and what we want.
We want this to be a party, a celebration, and to reflect who we are, both as indivduals and as a couple.
We’ll be sure to word everything accordingly on invitations and when people ask. But we’re not going to try to mask what we want (or what has no choice but to be) as something else.
I know my side of the family will be OK with this. FI’s family is another story. Our friends would probably be put off with anything else.
FI has known this all along, but has been working with me when I’d get stressed. I’m just slow to the game.
Finally, I/we can plan a truthful wedding.