"Finally made an honest woman out of you…"

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Turf Valley

Me too!  I haven’t had anyone say it to me, but I’ve heard people say it to others.  I think my response would just be a flabbergasted “What???”

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

gemchick82:  ew! I would just make it extremely awkward and pretend I had no idea what they meant. “Gosh, I was under the impression that I was an honest woman long before I met him…” and watch them fumble around trying to explain what they meant.

A poker face and a “But whatever do you mean?” is just punishment for jerks because then they have to own up to being a jerk.

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

What a gross, rude, sexist thing to say. It’s probably not intentional, but there are sooo many other ways to say congratulations. Ugh.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

gemchick82:  oh man I HATE this phrase! So…The man is inherently “honest” but the woman is not until the man unilaterally decides to make her so? I’ve only been told this once, thank goodness. I smiled politely but put a confused look on my face and acted like I had no idea what he was talking about, saying, “What? I’ve always been honest?” If I can’t make someone realize how offense that statement is without sounding combative, at least I can imply they are saying something so outdated I’ve never heard the phrase while remaining polite. Sigh.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

gemchick82:  So annoying.  I (very happily) lived with my now-husband for a LONG time before we got engaged / married.  

On the rare occasion that someone ever said something like that to me, I’d just sigh and be like “I know, bummer huh, I really like living in sin….”

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

If anyone ever said that to me, I’d say “That makes NO sense”  and after giving them a “that was the dumbest sh*t I’ve ever heard” stare I’d turn around and walk away before they even had a chance to respond.

I have zero tolerance for stupidity and equally stupid remarks!

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

gemchick82:  I have only had one person say this to me and I replied with, “Naw, I’m still shady as f$@#” so I could watch his face drop lol.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Yikes, I’ve never had anyone say this to me, but I think if I were quick enough on my feet (I never am) I’d say, “No, I made an honest man out of him!”

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

While I think the phrase is stupid, I also realize that the people who use it are too dense to understand what it means, so I brush it off. Usually with something like, “What century are we in!?”

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

gemchick82:  I have heard women say this too, so not necessarily a sexist thing to say.

Eh, I guess because it is a saying you expect from older people, a different generation. It is just a saying, not that big of a deal to me, but I could see where some might be offended.

ETA: Maybe a regional thing too. More conservative area, where you should not live together before marriage, then they would think it was acceptable after marriage.

Either way I am with you, my parents are the ones who tought me to value honesty. It has nothing to do with getting married. I am sure someone will say it to me once we are married though.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014 - Norton Country Club

Haven’t had this one in-person, but I’d be tempted to say something about, “If I was really going to be an ‘HONEST WOMAN’, I’d tell you how truly ugly that statment is!” or “Well, now that I’ll be an ‘HONEST WOMAN’, I guess I can start telling rude a$$hats what I actually think of them- should I start with you?”

I have heard ugly cousins of this since we live together already… “you’re shacking up”, “living in sin”, “playing house”.  I usually just smile and say, “Yup, living in sin and loving every minute of it!”

Post # 13
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Busy bee

I’ve never heard that expression before. I’m not religious so it doesn’t really apply! I would certainly have something equally kind to say back.

Post # 14
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

I’ve usually heard this applied to men: “So Jane decided to make an honest man out of you!”

I’ve only very seldom heard it applied to women.

I don’t think it is supposed to be sexist. It’s supposed to be a piece of slightly risque banter between friends…

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Wow, that is so rude.  I’d be PO’d if anyone said that to me.

On second thought, I’d probably have to go with housebee:‘s response.  LOVE IT!  HAHAHA.

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