Finally moving into my house after 10 months?

posted 2 years ago in Home
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

futuremrschristensen:  I’d just start moving in during the day and staying nights at FI’s house. I’d also be worried about my safety with that going on, even though you have an alarm system & are armed it doesn’t guarantee 100% safety and I would have trouble sleeping still… Is that an option or is his house too far away? My hope would be the sick shit is caught soon and then it would be safe to move in fully if you want, but until then I’d just be doing daytime visits and be on high-alert in your more vulnerable moments (getting into/out of car; leaving door unlocked to grab mail; moving items in/out alone)… 

Have the police realased any more details? Like the situation in which he was able to victimize these women or the time of day? 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would start moving items and setting up the house, but keep actually living and sleeping in the place you share with FI for now.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

futuremrschristensen:  how horrible! That is always my worst nightmare if the power goes out I always wonder if it’s just a routine power outage or someone cut it to make me come out. If there are 50 officers on it then hopefully he will be caught before he victimizes anyone else! Smart cookie locking your doors anytime you enter/exit- I do it whenever DH is away on work because I don’t have a clear view of the door from my yard/car so someone could easily slip in without me noticing… .

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

futuremrschristensen:  Do you know if your alarm system works if the power has been cut? I would definitely figure that out and take it into account when you’re at your house. And I’d try to only go during the day until they catch the guy. I’m usually pretty laid back about safety stuff, but this sounds like a repeat thing going on right where your house is, which would make me nervous.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

A partially occupied home is a much bigger target for bad guys than an empty home or a full-time occupied home. If you have an alarm and are armed, there is no reason for you not to move in. Make yourself highly visible. Keep the grass cut, put out trash regularly, sit on your porch in the afternoon. Basically mark your territory. And bring the dog. Not only are they are incredible deterrants for bad guys, but any dog would rather be in an unfamiliar place with their familiar people than in a familiar place with no people. Don’t leave the 14-year-old dog home alone overnights. He’s lonely.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

heck NO i would not sleep at nights in the new house until that guy gets caught. NO WAYYYYY.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Scary, scary. I agree with doing some work there during the day, but staying at your FI’s at night. Don’t move in until the creep is found or your FI goes with you. YIKES

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

Nope nope nope! No way jose, not this girl! I’d be planting my arse firmly in Beaver Cleaverville until FI got back lol. Even once the creep is caught, I would be attached to the dog and would have trouble sleeping in another place. I also hate living out of a suitcase, so I’d like to be in one place or the other, not back and forth.

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

If you won’t move the dog when you move, then don’t move at all. Don’t start taking your stuff over till closer to when your fiance comes home and you actually intend to occupy the house. Might not be a bad idea even to see if you can get a short-term rental tenant in there just so the place is occupied, but a house with stuff in it and no people is a huge target for bad guys. It’s beyond unfair to leave the dog all by himself, regardless of his age. Dogs are incredibly social creatures and even if someone is going to check on him a few times a day, it’s not the same thing to the dog as actually having his humans around. 

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