Post # 1
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
So we are a bit late on this, but Mr. LK and I are planning to finally start our registries this weekend. We are doing Pottery Barn, Crate and Barrel, and probably Amazon.com as well. Does anyone have any tips to share? Lessons learned? How long should we block off on our schedule to get the PB and C&B registries started? (The stores are right next to each other in the mall, so we might as well get them both started in the same trip.)
While we are on the topic, did you register anywhere? What are your favorite items on your registry?
Post # 3
Our stores are different cause I’m in Canada, but the biggest problems we had were
1. Give FI a chance to breathe. At least for me, shopping comes naturally haha, but N can’t stand it. He tried to suck it up for me, but while I was swooning over bedding he broke down. Gave him a 10 minute break and he was fine!
2. If price is ever a problem, go for the high quality, if slightly more expensive option. People might always join together and purchase it, and if they don’t then you can consider getting the more budget friendly option.
3. Don’t get things because ‘everyone gets them’. I can’t stand to use mixers for anything (I’m a fork in a bowl kind of girl), but I had the most overwhelming desire to register for the kitchenaid mixer because it’s just something brides do. I didn’t, because I knew I wouldn’t use it.
Good luck! It’s fun picking out your future life!
Post # 4
For me the best lesson learned is that it was better to let FH register for something and not argue about it. I went back and deleted the stupid things. We didn’t need a flame torch or pasta stretcher but instead of having a breakdown in Macys I let him click the button and then when we went home I removed it from the registry.
Post # 5
I agree with @june42011 about letting him get what he wants at the store and delete the stupid $hit later. He wanted to register for a PS3…um, no. Not a priority!
Also, if he was really adimant about getting a really nice china set, and it was fancier than our normal taste, I let him get it. He’s really excited about it. I think it’s nice, so I’ll deal. I get to register for beautiful wine glasses and a Kuerig, he can have the china.
And lastly, have a cocktail first. You’ll have a lot more fun.
Post # 6
We decided to do both of our registries in one day (Macy’s and C&B). We went on Monday (but it was a holiday, President’s day I think, so we both had the day off) and it wasn’t too crowded. I would suggest taking about 2 hours at least for each. We actually spent 3 or so hours at C&B. Then went and had lunch. Then spent 2 or so hours at Macy’s. Definitely suggest NOT doing it on a weekend because it will be crowded. Plus, if you have questions or trouble with the scanning gun, there will likely be someone there to help you and you don’t have to wait around until they can help you.
As far as picking stuff out, I let FI make a lot of choices and he felt much more included. Surprisingly, he did have an opinion on the china patterns and goblet styles. However, I do all the cooking in the house (my choice!) so he feels like all this stuff is for me, but he still understands it is for both of us in the long run. But it surprised me how much he enjoyed it when I let him choose stuff and be the person to hold the scan gun and scan things.
Post # 7
my tips: make a list at your home(s) before you go. Come up w/idea of things you want or need – pots, pans, dishes, table clothes, curtains, pillows etc. You can sit down the person in store or not – I preffered not to. Start scanning the things on your list first. You can get to the special extras later! Decide together whether the type of pot/pan/blanket etc is a. worth the money and b. something you would consider buying for a peer. If you’re choosing $150 china place settings but know your friends or family wouldn’t be caught dead buying that opt for something your’re actually likely to get! Seriously, I wonder at some registries. “you want what??” Pick lots of high and low cost items. You can always change things later!!! It’s not a one time deal. There is nothing wrong with adding items online when you’ve gotten home and realized you were crazy instore! Set up your account so you can access stuff online.
Post # 8
It’s nice to go into it having an idea of what you want to register for, but remember that you can always go back and edit the lists later! Also, I would check and see if C&B is doing one of their registry parties in the near future. I think they usually have them on Sundays, from 9-11 (before the store is open). They have mimosas and some food, and they give you a little 5 minute talk, and then you are off to register! They also had people around the store doing demos of certain items; it was awesome!
Post # 9
don’t worry, i am getting married in October and FI and I are still working on registries. We were at Bed, Bath and Beyond this past Monday and got started, but still have more to do. It can be exhausting. Definitely have an idea of what you may use and if you don’t use something, you don’t have to register for it since it is expected to be on a registry.
Post # 10
I’d talk about what you want / prioritize prior to going. You might also look online to get an idea (don’t spend too long on this).
I was surprised DH didn’t want some of the serving bowls I really wanted… and we ended up taking back some of the piece we got that we really didn’t need (and exchanged them for stuff we really wanted).
Also – don’t get talked into registering for things that you really don’t want from the salespeople. The BBB people tried to tell me how much I needed kitchen towels and utensils – even though, we had tons and I didn’t want or need more. It was almost more annoying dealing with the salespeople than anything.
Keep in mind that you can always go back and add things later and/or delete/add online. So, don’t get too caught up on a decision if you can’t make up your mind.
Most of all: HAVE FUN!! It’s a great way to bond with your FI
Post # 11
don’t try to do it all in one trip. We were overwhelmed. Also, keep in mind that if anyone walks you through the store, of course there incentive is to get you to register for as much as possible! As PP’s have said, don’t feel pressured.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
UPDATE: We had a fun time registering. PB and C&B were both fairly empty. C&B had most of the stuff that we wanted from there in store, but PB only had about 50% of our list. PB had a lot of individual items of things that we want in a set, or items in similar colors to what we selected online, so I am really glad that we went in person. Tomorrow I will finish up both registries online. 🙂
Post # 13
I agree with everyone else…plus…wear good shoes!! I found the registry to be the hardest so far and so time consuming.