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and he already knew! Facebook and mutual friends I guess.... but he hadn't said anything yet and I felt it would be too awkward to tell him directly, so I've been avoiding the subject when we talk (we still own a house together so we're in touch semi-regularly).

He actually said "congratulations, I guess" - which is such his style, to say the right thing, but add sarcasm. This is big, since I left him for her, and even though that was the summer of 2008, we were together almost 6 years. 

We had discussed marriage, but never seriously. Towards the end I pressured him into buying me a promise ring so I wouldn't get hit on by men so much at work (did the trick nicely, actually). When we broke up I gave him that ring back.

anyway, he thought I was just going through a lesbian phase and would come back to him eventually. Things were really rough for the first year after our break up. I suffered a lot of emotional abuse, and I'm so glad that's all behind me now.

I just feel so relieved to know finally that he knows, and he can think whatever. My heart was racing on the "chat", i didn't realize I still had such an emotional charge with him, but this is a big thing I guess.

anyway, just sharing. thanks lgtqbees! :) 

Good for you! I mean it seems like it got a weight off your chest. Sounds a lot like my situation. Ugh, kinda icky overall but seems like it worked out. I am thankful we had a clean easy and fast divorce and never looked back, and therefore I haven;t had to deal with him. Good for you for keeping civil depsite all the stuff he out you through so many years. I was also with my ex for six years, married for less than one. And. . .who the hell cares what he thinks! :)