Post # 1
I got engaged on Thanksgiving this past year. I asked my best friend to meet for dinner when we were both in our home town over Christmas with the intention of asking her to be one of my bridesmaids. Well, when she showed up she had gotten engaged the day before. 🙂
So, I asked her to be my bridesmaid and she of course said YES!
Then, last weekend she called me. She wants me to be one of her bridesmaids in return. I’m so excited! But, then I realized – I have no idea what this is going to take financially. I have never been a bridesmaid before.
I’m obviously planning/saving for my own wedding (May, 2014). She is getting married Sept 2013.
So I guess i’m asking – What should I expect? I want to know so I’m a good Bridesmaid – but also, because I want to make sure I am a good Bride to my bridesmaids and not asking too much of them.
How much money do you think it is going to cost me to be her bridesmaid? Dress, shower gift, wedding gift, host shower, pay for hair/makeup, hotels, travel. I’ve never been in a wedding before and I want to make sure I put aside enough money from my tax refund to pay for my BM responsibilities.
Post # 3
I’m probably on the higher end but I’m expecting to spend 2500-3000 to be in my friends wedding. Dress was 280, Shoes were 75, Flew out to go BM dress shopping – 220, Flying out for bachelorette – 320, bachelorette “costs” – 500, flying for wedding – 280, gift for wedding 200, gift for shower – 75, makeup day of wedding – 100, hotel for wedding – 450
yep, already 2500 and I’m not even throwing her shower
Post # 4
I don’t think we’ll be able to give you a good estimate. We don’t know things like, how far away you live, etc. Costs for dresses, hair, makeup, shoes…..they’re all incredibly variable.
Post # 5
It really depends… I have been in a few scenarios – from a cost of $500 (for clothing, gifts, bachelorette, etc) and up to $1500 (for a wedding I had to travel for). It ain’t cheap but it depends on the bride.
Post # 6
I would estimate about $500 minimum not counting travel expenses should they exist.
Post # 7
It depends on the bride really. I’ve been a bridesmaid six or seven times (I’ve since retired) and I think the most I’ve spent is $600 but my friends are pretty low key. If you’re not sure, I think you should go ahead and save $1-2K just in case.
Yikes, good thing I have low key and local friends because I just calculated $600×6 = $3600 which seems like a lot but some people spend that much just to be a BM in one wedding.
Post # 8
It is hard to give an estimate without more details. I was in a cousin’s wedding and I only spent about $500 (partly because the bride paid for our hair/makeup and my mom and other aunts threw her shower), then I was MOH for my best friend and I spent closer to $2000. I think a safe estimate is at least $500, but it can be a quick climb to $1500 or more.
Post # 9
My BMs are paying $400 for their flight from CA to NC and that will be their only wedding expense. I didn’t do a bachelorette party, but we met up for dinner and drinks, but we each paid for ourselves. I didn’t want to cost to inhibit their ability to stand with me on my wedding day, however $400 is still a lot of money to ask someone to spend.
Post # 10
It is hard to say. One wedding I was in I spent like $300 for everything (it was a low key wedding). The one I’m going to be in this year the dress was $200, I live about 3 hours away so I’m guessing like $500 in gas total, then the hen party is most likely going to be a spa day so I’m not sure what that will cost. Id guess like $1500-2000 for the wedding this year.
It really depends on the style of wedding she is going for, how far away you live, where it is taking place (buying dresses, hair/makeup, etc can vary drastically depending on were you are).
Post # 11
Last wedding I was in cost about $1500, but I hosted the bachelor party which was about $400 of that.
Post # 12
The last wedding I was a bridesmaid in I spent about $1500
Dress: $100 / Shoes: $60 / Accessories (she ended up gifting up jewelry to wear but since I didn’t know that I bought new stuff) $30 / Gifts (Shower & wedding): $150 / Bachelorette (no gifts, just payed for her drinsk & dinner): $200 / I had to travel from out-of state so my travel expenses were pretty high (CA to GA): about $500 in flights & another $350 for hotels (which I split with another BM)/ Plus all that other extra smaller stuff like food & transportation…. Did my own hair & makeup as I was on a budget & none of the other girls cared anyway…
Post # 13
@cmbr: I agree with
this. Everyone’s costs are completely different.
Post # 14
I spent about $1000 to be in the last wedding I was in, and it was a pretty low key affair. That was essentially just for dress, make-up, travel, hotels, very low key bachelorette weekend (as in dinner and dancing with the girls, no Vegas, etc) and a wedding gift. It adds up fast!
Post # 15
Thanks for the input. You all provided basically what i was looking for – just examples. I won’t have much travel involved. And, even if i wasn’t a bridesmaid as a guest i would still have traveled to the wedding and booked a hotel room. So, i really don’t factor that in. I was mostly interested to see if there were unexpected costs that you all mentioned that I didn’t know about. Thanks!
Post # 16
My BMs are paying:
flights: $200 (appx)
They didn’t pay anything for my showers (except gifts) but I didn’t include those.
I’d definitely expect to pay around $1000 for a wedding that is out of town, maybe a little less for one that is in town.
I’m doing my best to minimize costs since they have to travel so far.