- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
So I’m a bit confused what to do for the wedding. My parent’s have given us some money to help pay for the ceremony/reception. I am surprised, grateful, and worried. My dad has a tendency to hang things over my head. I really don’t want this to turn into me regretting it forever.
My FI has not spoken to his parents to see if they are going to financially give any money for the ceremony/reception. A part of me doesn’t want him to ask because no one is under any obligation (in my mind) to pay for this except myself and my FI.
Here is the main issue I’m having. I do not want a big wedding. I do not want a traditional wedding. What my FI and I have been talking about is eloping to Iceland but letting everyone know beforehand (is that really eloping then? I have no idea). His mother was not OK with this. My parents said they wanted to be there and my grandparents want to be there.
So now what? We looked into other venues but if I can’t get married in Iceland then I want to have our parents, grandparents, and siblings. That’s it.
So how do I broach this subject with my parents since they gave us money? I feel like I need to ask what they saw this money going towards and what they don’t want it going towards. Is that the proper way to use their money? I highly doubt they want us to elope on their dime but should they have say on what happens with it?
Also, I spoke with one of the only people I know who had a very small wedding, very non-traditional, and she said that in the end if I’m going to have the wedding my parent’s want (a large one with family and friends) someone else should pay for it. I kind of agree with that and had not thought about it that way. What do you think about that concept?