Post # 1
Well Im close with both my parents (they divorced when I was only little) However I would say Im closer to my mum than my dad. My dad is a little bit more straight laced than the rest of my family. My fiance and I want to get married next year, but I have absolutely no idea how to approach my dad on the subject of maybe helping out with some of the cost. Im not sayying I want him to pay for everything,because were having a low budget wedding,but maybe to pay for a little of the venue price.
Everybody else has offered to help to pay for one thing or another,as much as they can,but I really have no idea how to approach the subject with him,especially as he wants us to have a long engagement and isnt keen on us getting married anytime soon. I dont want to sound like a money grabber or anything like that but it would be a really great help if my dad helped us out a little.
How do I approach the subject with him and what do i say?please help!
Post # 3
Does he know you are getting married yet? If not, just tell him. He may offer right off the bat to help. I told my parents I was getting married not expecting anything from them. They didn’t say anything about it right then, so I assumed I was on my own. A few days later my mom called me and said, we’d like to offer you X amount of money towards your wedding. So I would just wait. If it appears that he is not going to offer at all, I guess you could broach the subject with him. I’m not really sure how though- I hate asking for money more than anything. But wait a few days after telling him to ask, and he may offer on his own.
Post # 4
yeah he knows were getting married,hes known about it since we announced our engagement but hes made no offer as of yet,Im just unsure of how to approach it with him,like you say I hate asking for money too,x
Post # 5
Ick…this is a tough one. I’d be inclined to talk about the wedding with him and see if he offers. Asking for money when he isn’t able or willing to financially contribute could make for an awkward conversation. I would just hold off on asking for a bit and see if he offers on his own.
Post # 6
I cant really give you any advice because I’m a firm believer in not asking. I’ve never know anyone to come right out and ask their parents for help with the wedding. My parents offered what they could (which is roughly half the total wedding cost) without having to be asked.
Post # 7
Does he know you’re getting married? If so, and he watned to offer up money, he would’ve. If not, he’ll keep quiet.