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    sept2610    May 29, 2010  

    things were going so well for me that I deemed myself as one of the luckiest people in the world, yes, I've been very blessed...but it's crazy how everything can change in a day.

    The car I have right now I've only had for a couple months and was more of a gift to me than anything, but it is older and has higher miles. Well, I knew that i needed to have it serviced when my friend gave it to me, but he said it was nothing urgent and would only be $500 tops... well it turns out that how much it costs to completely fix my car would mean depleting my savings account... on top of that my insurance bill is due and I owe my dad the money, and I haven't paid the rest of the money for the ceremony and reception site.

    let's just say that the amount of expenses that have accumulated now exceed the amount of money I have. 

    I spent all morning crying at work because I'm so worried and stressed and I don't know what to do. I have two great jobs, but as a student with no degree, I don't make much, so I hold onto what I can, and I need a car to get to my jobs... 

    I don't know what to do and I just wish that crying washed away all my problems! :(:(:(

     
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    WendyS328    February 11, 2011   Saint Louis,MO

    can your parents or FI help you out?

     

    Trust me, I've had many-a-days like what you are experiencing now.  I'm sure you're tired of hearing people tell you "It will get better".  But I'm living proof it does.  The best cure for all of this is to just take on ONE thing at a time!!!

     
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    sept2610    May 29, 2010  

    heh yeah my parents wish they could help, I come from a big family though and they have enough financial stresses of their own. They're really struggling.

    My fi just finished school and hasn't started his "real job" yet so he's kinda in the same position as me...

     
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    sept2610    May 29, 2010  

    oh yeah...and I forgot to say that the deposit for our place to live was supposed to be paid on Wednesday.

    just add that to the list :(

     
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    GirlWithARing    September 5, 2010   Living in NYC, marrying in Philadelphia

    Is it too late to move the wedding back? Or scale down the honeymoon? Or maybe FI's parents can offer some help, even if it's just a loan? 

     
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    sept2610    May 29, 2010  

    yeah his parents are in the same boat. 

    yeah we're only two months out from the wedding. 

    honeymoon was scaled down from day one. we're not even leaving the state. 

    there is nothing I can do.

    I can't even afford to book the honeymoon. or anything else. I'm at a total loss, and I come from modest families, as does my fi. his parents work for the post office. 

     

    I wouldn't have posted this if I thought there was somewhere I could turn to. I guess I just needed a vent.

     
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    baybee510    May 27, 2010  

    @ sept2610 That really sucks that everything is happening all at once.  Vent all you want, that's what weddingbee is good for!  Paying for the necessities one at a time are most important right now.  Hopefully the vendors for the ceremony and reception site will let you pay the money at a later date.  I'm sure they'll be understanding.  Good luck!

     

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