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Well, to be fair, if she just bought a new car and furniture, she's probably strapped. It does sound like a good deal, but you just never know. Have fun!
not knowing her situation but its not just the $266 for the trip.. theres added meals, transport, shopping, drinks ect, it can add up
by your description of her she could be financially strapped and in debt to her eyeballs and sometimes its the smaller debts that can freak you out more than the bigger picture (been there-done that)
either way - sounds like a great weekend for you so go and enjoy
It does sound like a great deal. But was going away for a bachelorette party your idea or your MOH's?
How long has your MOH known that you want to take this trip for your bachelorette party? While $266 is an awesome deal for airfare and a hotel, it still is a lot of money, especially with her newly acquired payments.
I know it's hard, but try not to be too upset with her; it's really easy to get into arguments about money, and in the end it's not worth it. The last thing I'd want is for my friends to judge me for purchases I've made that I feel are important.
I agree with the other posts. I can understnad your feelings, if you spent money visiting her. But did you ask to come visit? Did she ask you to come out to help move? If she asked you to take money and time out of your busy schedule to go there, and she couldn't reciprocate. I can understand you feelings.
But if she had these things planned before the bachelorette being planned in SF...or if she wasn't in on the plans to have it in SF, I think you should cut her some slack.
I'm sure it would be really disappointing if your MOH couldn't attend your Bachelorette festivities. I would have been really bummed out if one of my gals missed my party. Unfortunately, it sounds like she just doesn't have the money to attend the party. Even though it seems like a great deal to you, it may be something she simply can't afford. Yes, the $266 is a great price for the flight, but like others mentioned--there's also food, alcohol and other expenses to consider. Even though it may look from the outside like she's got plenty of money with her new furniture and car, she may be really strapped now with car/credit card payments. I have friends who just bought a really big house and furnished it and now they're basically eating PB & J for every meal! I think you never really know someone else's financial situation, no matter what it appears to be.
FWIW, I couldn't attend a Bachelorette party for a wedding where I was a BM because of cost. The party was going to cost upwards from $300 (with the drive, hotel, limo, food, etc) and I simply didn't have the money. It was really hard and embarassing to have to admit to my friend (and the other BM) that I didn't have enough money to participate. Luckily, my friend was really cool about it. She just said, "We'd love to have you, but if you can't make it, I totally understand." This took the pressure off of me and allowed her to have fun with the girls who could attend.
Thanks Bees. Regardless of her situation or how she got there, $266 is apparently a lot of money for her right now. I feel kind of bad for going off on her here. Sometimes it takes perspectives from others to understand. Hopefully she'll be able to join in on the festivities.
It also might not be the amount of money, but she may also have other obligations that would make it difficult to take of a whole weekend for a bachelorette party. She might not be comfortable telling you that she can't spend a whole weekend partying if she has a demanding job, and is using the money as an excuse. I know it is hard when your friends can't be there for you, but destination bachelorette parties (like destination weddings) will often see a decline in attendance since it is much harder for people to participate.
I agree you have to be understanding of other's finances but I do know it can be frustrating when you see your BM's having no trouble spendng money on everything from vacations to clothes to other splurges but then you ask them to chip in for dinner or something for your bachelorette it is a whole different story. Unfortunately, people are weird about money.Good luck
...it's easy to judge a person's financial position, but it's impossible for you to make the call for her.
As your MOH, I'm sure she would be SO bummed to miss out on the weekend. That said, you need to leave it up to her to make the decision to be there or not. If she can't make it, you will miss her and it won't be the same... but, it's not the end of the world.
If you are able, you might want to talk to her and see if you could pitch in some money to offset the costs. What's more important? Having your MOH there? or a couple hundred dollars?
@ oracle - Very true, however I don't really have the extra cash to loan her myself. My FI are closing on the sale of our first home this week, plus we have a couple of wedding vendor balances to pay come September. My MOH is actually my FI's sister and he doesn't want me loaning her the money. He thinks she needs to learn a lesson about irresponsible spending habits.
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My bachelorette party involves me, my MOH and bridesmaid flying up to San Francisco for the weekend to meet up with my other long distance bridesmaid. I am doing this because 1) I want all my BMs to bond pre-wedding 2) I love San Francisco!
I priced some flights/hotels and sent to my MOH. She's complaining that $266 is too expensive! Um, hello. That's a great deal. 2 nights at a hotel in the city PLUS roundtrip airfare. I think she's delusional about what stuff actually costs.
I'm trying to be sympathetic, as yeah, times are tough right now. But I'm having a hard time feeling bad for her when she just furnished her entire apartment with everything new from Crate and Barrel and she just bought a freakin BMW! Plus, I just spent $200 the other weekend visiting her in LA. She's always complaining about how broke she is, while she's out shopping for more stuff she doesn't need or spending money getting her hair highlighted or getting nails done.
I'm about ready to tell her "You don't have to come to the bachelorette weekend. I understand if you're too strapped for cash" and leave it at that.
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