Please help! My fiance wants to get married in a church, he was raised Methodist, and I was raised Pentacostal. I don't really care if we get married in a church or not, but I want to give him the wedding he wants as well. So we are not members of a church, and his family and mine families churches are too far from the reception place to use. We are planning on driving to the reception place and getting the names and phone numbers of churches in the area who are methodist, or close. My question is...how do you approach the churches about marrying you if you aren't practicing (aka going to church every sunday). Do most churches look down on this? Or do they just charge you more if your not a member?
In my experience, most churches will just charge you a higher fee to get married there if you are not a member of their particular church. The church we are getting married at just encouraged us to look for a 'home' church, whether it was theirs or not. I've been to a lot of Methodist churches, and they seem to be one of the more 'accepting' denominations. I wouldn't worry about it too much! Good luck!
Try to find a nondenominational church. Or I know a coworker found a Catholic church that she really liked because the one she usually goes to a rude and they just told her to fill out a form. I know that I wasn't an official member of the church I have been going to since I was born so I just filled out the form. I think if you find a church you like just ask and tell them the situation that you aren't from the area but would like to get married there. You might have to travel for prewedding counseling so you might want to find out if you can do that locally. Good luck and don't stress about it.
Please help! My fiance wants to get married in a church, he was raised Methodist, and I was raised Pentacostal. I don't really care if we get married in a church or not, but I want to give him the wedding he wants as well. So we are not members of a church, and his family and mine families churches are too far from the reception place to use. We are planning on driving to the reception place and getting the names and phone numbers of churches in the area who are methodist, or close. My question is...how do you approach the churches about marrying you if you aren't practicing (aka going to church every sunday). Do most churches look down on this? Or do they just charge you more if your not a member?
Thank you for your help in advance!
Val
posted by vjbjdk 1 posts 3 months agoIn my experience, most churches will just charge you a higher fee to get married there if you are not a member of their particular church. The church we are getting married at just encouraged us to look for a 'home' church, whether it was theirs or not. I've been to a lot of Methodist churches, and they seem to be one of the more 'accepting' denominations. I wouldn't worry about it too much! Good luck!
posted by MerryC 20 posts 3 months agoA lot of chruchs give first priority to members for dates and almost all charge more money if you're not a member.
posted by KateMW 483 posts 3 months agoTry to find a nondenominational church. Or I know a coworker found a Catholic church that she really liked because the one she usually goes to a rude and they just told her to fill out a form. I know that I wasn't an official member of the church I have been going to since I was born so I just filled out the form. I think if you find a church you like just ask and tell them the situation that you aren't from the area but would like to get married there. You might have to travel for prewedding counseling so you might want to find out if you can do that locally. Good luck and don't stress about it.
posted by jennred782 42 posts 3 months ago