- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
A few weeks ago I pretty much wrote out our entire wedding ceremony, I wanted it to be simple, meaningful, and non religious. We are doing a tree planting instead of a unity candle and wrote our own vows and stuff. I wouldn’t mind someone elses input, but I really like most of what I already have in there. We have yet to actually find someone to actually marry us though.
Well, when we first got engaged (Sept) we contacted one of my FI friend’s that as kind of a joke got ordained online last year, but he actually does weddings regularly now. He was going to charge us $80, but I haven’t heard anything from him in months. So I decided that I refuse to pay someone that got ordained online for free that isn’t even doing to work of writing the ceremony and won’t even take the time to meet with us. After voicing my frustrations with my FI, he said we could find someone else.
So 2 weeks ago he said that one of his dad’s good friends (already invited to the wedding) was getting officially ordained soon, and that we should talk to him. I don’t even know what religion he is, but my FI and I used to be really big into the church, but now don’t go to church. We both of sort of lost our faith and have mixed feelings on religion. I’m really uncomfortable having a religious ceremony because it just isn’t us; I would feel like I’m lying to my friends and family. I kept telling my FI that I wasn’t sure about this guy, because I’m just expecting that this religious guy would only want to do a religious ceremony.
Fast forward to today…FI surprised me by bringing over this guy and his wife. I gave him a printed copy of the ceremony and he looked it over. He said he was going to look it over more thoroughly, and would get back with us. He also wants to meet with us and ask us questions…I’m assuming stuff like are we ready, our religious beliefs, etc.?
I’m just nervous about these questions, and possibly having to tell him no if he wants to include some kind of sermon. What If I have to just straight up tell him this is what we want and if you are not comfortable with it we will find someone else? I don’t like confrontation, and think it’ll be super awkward at the wedding if we end up going with someone else.
Just had to vent that out..FI keeps telling me I’m overreacting..which I’m sure I am…