Post # 1
FI and I are planning on TTC after our wedding in October.
We cannot agree on whether we would find out the gender or not. Before I met FI’s friends and family, I thought the norm was to find out when the baby was born. However, every woman in FI’s family or friendship circle found out whilst pregnant.
So what did/ are you planning to do? And why?
Post # 3
Currently pregnant but to protect myself I refuse to know and FI gets that so we won’t be finding out until the birth.
Post # 4
I would have to know. I’m a planner by nature and I’m not a fan of surprises. With kids I feel like so much is out of your control and is going to surprise you, so if there is any information available I’ll take what I can get.
I know some people that have waited till the birth to find out, and it always just blows my mind. My sister is due soon and doesn’t know yet, and even that is kind of killing me. I just want to know already!
Post # 5
@linnylou_88: We’re old school so when we TTC, we will go “Team Green” or whatever they call it nowadays where you don’t know the gender ahead of time. Honestly, we just like the old-fashioned surprise element. 🙂 I’m also not a big fan of gender specific stuff so will have fun getting “neutral” items.
Post # 6
@linnylou_88: Definitely before. I truly don’t understand the concept of telling the ultrasound technician–who knows what you are having–to keep it a secret from you!
Post # 7
@linnylou_88: we are planning to find out because I hate surprises and I want to know. My mom and his mom were like “awwwwww that ruins the fun” when they heard that. But when I am pregnant, it’s our child and not theirs so we are going to find out. He didn’t care either way and knows that I’ll probably annoy him to death if he didn’t agree to find out.
Post # 8
Definitely before! I need time to paint the nursey pink or sports themed!
Post # 9
I don’t like surprises. I want to know so I can plan accordingly.
Post # 10
I really REALLY want to find out because I am a planner and shopper. My DH is adament that we not find out. It will be fun to see who “wins”.
Post # 11
I’m a huge planner, but surprised myself by wanting to be Team Green, and my husband was on board.
we decided for a few reasons.
- Primarily because it’s one of the few surprises in life for us that will be amazing either way. I sometimes think about finding out after all that hard work of delivering, as it just being the payoff for the pain haha. I get a little emotional thinking about it.
- Also, because it’s our first, there’s no pressure to have the second child be the opposite gender from the first (and I’m sure I will feel that way in later pregnancies, because I want one of each). I know I’ll find out for any other pregnancies, so this is really my only chance to be Team Green.
- Practicality – gifts and clothing prior to birth will be netural and able to be used for any future kiddos.
- Fun – It’s just a fun little secret for someone like me who is so planning and preparation oriented (as evidenced by my numbered list haha!) . I’m quite frankly amazed that I’m okay with not knowing in advance.
Post # 12
@kate02121: what she said, word for word!
Post # 13
Not only the element of something special to find out after birth, but also because we do not want a bunch of baby blue or pink items at our shower. We want practical items; the clothing can come later!
Post # 14
@kate02121: I agree for all the reson you listed!
Post # 15
We found out before, but this is baby #1! So she’s getting a fancy nursery and a wardrobe and all shiny new things!
But I don’t want to find out for the rest of our kids!
Post # 16
@linnylou_88: We will be finding out in March, our baby is due in August. There is NO WAY I could wait that long to know. I am a planner and gender neutral decorating and shopping would drive me nuts. I have to know!