Finding out gender BEFORE or AFTER baby is born

posted 3 years ago in Babies
  • poll: I found/plan on finding out...
    Before baby is born : (197 votes)
    65 %
    After baby is born : (106 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
    448 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2014



    Currently pregnant but to protect myself I refuse to know and FI gets that so we won’t be finding out until the birth.

    Post # 4
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I would have to know.  I’m a planner by nature and I’m not a fan of surprises.  With kids I feel like so much is out of your control and is going to surprise you, so if there is any information available I’ll take what I can get.

    I know some people that have waited till the birth to find out, and it always just blows my mind.  My sister is due soon and doesn’t know yet, and even that is kind of killing me.  I just want to know already!

    Post # 5
    2576 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @linnylou_88:  We’re old school so when we TTC, we will go “Team Green” or whatever they call it nowadays where you don’t know the gender ahead of time. Honestly, we just like the old-fashioned surprise element. 🙂 I’m also not a big fan of gender specific stuff so will have fun getting “neutral” items.

    Post # 6
    3112 posts
    Sugar bee

    @linnylou_88:  Definitely before.  I truly don’t understand the concept of telling the ultrasound technician–who knows what you are having–to keep it a secret from you!

    Post # 7
    3084 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @linnylou_88:  we are planning to find out because I hate surprises and I want to know. My mom and his mom were like “awwwwww that ruins the fun” when they heard that. But when I am pregnant, it’s our child and not theirs so we are going to find out. He didn’t care either way and knows that I’ll probably annoy him to death if he didn’t agree to find out. 

    Post # 8
    3280 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Definitely before! I need time to paint the nursey pink or sports themed! 

    Post # 9
    594 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t like surprises. I want to know so I can plan accordingly. 

    Post # 10
    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I really REALLY want to find out because I am a planner and shopper. My DH is adament that we not find out. It will be fun to see who “wins”.

    Post # 11
    3119 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I’m a huge planner, but surprised myself by wanting to be Team Green, and my husband was on board. 

    we decided for a few reasons.

    1. Primarily because it’s one of the few surprises in life for us that will be amazing either way. I sometimes think about finding out after all that hard work of delivering, as it just being the payoff for the pain haha. I get a little emotional thinking about it. 
    2. Also, because it’s our first, there’s no pressure to have the second child be the opposite gender from the first (and I’m sure I will feel that way in later pregnancies, because I want one of each). I know I’ll find out for any other pregnancies, so this is really my only chance to be Team Green. 
    3. Practicality – gifts and clothing prior to birth will be netural and able to be used for any future kiddos. 
    4. Fun – It’s just a fun little secret for someone like me who is so planning and preparation oriented (as evidenced by my numbered list haha!) . I’m quite frankly amazed that I’m okay with not knowing in advance.

    Post # 12
    751 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @kate02121:  what she said, word for word!

    Post # 13
    944 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @kate02121:  +1


    Not only the element of something special to find out after birth, but also because we do not want a bunch of baby blue or pink items at our shower. We want practical items; the clothing can come later! 

    Post # 14
    683 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    @kate02121:  I agree for all the reson you listed! 

    Post # 15
    11772 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We found out before, but this is baby #1! So she’s getting a fancy nursery and a wardrobe and all shiny new things!

    But I don’t want to find out for the rest of our kids!

    Post # 16
    11469 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    @linnylou_88:  We will be finding out in March, our baby is due in August. There is NO WAY I could wait that long to know. I am a planner and gender neutral decorating and shopping would drive me nuts. I have to know!

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