finding out horrible news via fb

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 2
1157 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Mrslovebug:  I’m so, so sorry you’re going through this!  I’m not on bad terms with my family at all, but my parents kind of do the same thing…they feel like it’s “bothering” me to keep me up to date with what’s going on with the family (none of whom have Facebook or email or any way I’d just see what’s going on with them).  I found out my grandpa on my mom’s side was dying a couple years back when she told me she was going to go visit him one last time – thank god I was able to get myself together in a day to join her (he lived pretty far away). 

I don’t have any advice here really, just wanted to say I’m sorry.

Post # 5
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

your family is being absolutely ridiculous. the only thing I can possibly think of reading that you are 30 weeks prego is that maybe they were trying to keep you from being upset? but if they were they wouldn’t have splattered it all over facebook. i’m so sorry you are having to go through this. do you live close to any of your family members to just show up and confront them about what’s happening?


Post # 6
7286 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Mrslovebug:  Are you estranged from your father? I am sorry you are going through this but if you are estranged maybe it was his wish for you not to be contacted. 

Post # 4
1231 posts
Bumble bee

Mrslovebug:  You have my sympathy.  I cannot imagine how upsetting this must be. I hope you can work things out with your family.  HUGS

Post # 7
41 posts

I’m so sorry you are going though this.  Unfortunately many people don’t worry about doing the right thing as much as they worry about how uncomfortable it may make them feel.  They should have told you personally.  I hope you feel better and you get the updates you need in a more caring way.


Post # 8
1067 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Mrslovebug:  I feel you 🙁  I’m an only child, and I found out about my mother going in for emergency surgery via a mass email to the rest of the family from my father.

I was incredibly hurt at the time, but years later, realized that my dad was super tired and strung out from watching over her, and just wasn’t thinking rationally. It didn’t stop it from feeling super poopy at the time, though 🙁

Post # 9
1216 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Mrslovebug:  Wow, I’m so sorry. I hope your dad is okay.

I had a simliar technology related family situation where my Great Grandmother died and I was told via text message, as was my mother who was at work. I was livid. Technology is not the way for family to find out news like that.

Post # 10
2792 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I am so sorry you are going through this.  While technology gives us more ways to communicate, it also makes us forget/get lazy.  The old phone trees break down.   I still remember that there was one uncle we would always accidnetaly forget when stuff happened with my grandpa.  Grief kind of makes people’s heads do funny things.  I really hope that is what is happening in your case. 

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