Post # 1
I am friends with one of DH’s cousins on FB. She’s a really sweet girl and everything, but she has this habit of announcing family tragedies on FB before any of us have found out.
Darling Husband is very close to his grandmother. Everybody says he’s the favorite. Last year, when she was diagnosed with breast cancer, Darling Husband had no idea she’d even gone in for testing. Mother-In-Law and I didn’t want to alarm him by telling him if there was no reason to. When the tests came back positive for cancer, DH’s cousin immediately logged in to FB and wrote, “Please pray for my grandmother, she just found out she has breast cancer.” So, of course, this is how Darling Husband finds out his grandmother had cancer.
Anyway, DH’s cousin hardly ever gets on FB. But, when she does, it’s to post about something that has happened that none of us have even heard about yet. It’s sort of like she’s bragging that she was the first to know, or something. Just now, she put, “Please pray for my grandmother, she is having heart problems…” and goes on to say that DH’s grandmother will be having heart surgery. Wtf?! DH’s grandmother hasn’t even had time to call us yet!
Idk if it’s just PMS, or if this is truly as annoying as I find it to be. What do you guys think?
Post # 3
I would be fucking LIVID if anyone in my family did that.
Post # 4
Um yes I find this very distasteful.
Post # 5
Super annoying, it’s not just you. Sounds like she is looking for attention/sympathy from her fb friends…
Post # 6
Is she young? Someone should talk to her about how insensitive she’s being.
I think you hit the nail on the head with the whole, “See, everyone? I knew first. I’m important.” vibe, though. That is RAMPANT on fb.
Post # 7
Two days before our wedding she got on there and wrote that her great aunt “Lucy” had died. DH’s grandmother has a sister named “Lucy”, but apparently his cousin’s maternal grandmother also has a sister named “Lucy”. None of us knew that she had two great-aunt “Lucys”. Needless to say, we all freaked out because we thought she was referring to our “Lucy”.
Post # 8
@Pinksapphire: This is shocking. How old is she?! (Please say 13..!)
Post # 9
@Juliepants: She’s older than me! She’s 26. So, I guess that may be considered young to some people. I definitely get that “I’m important” vibe from her. It would be one thing if she was a regular FB poster. But, she’s not. She only gets online to write about some bad thing that has happened in the family and to ask for prayers. There is nothing wrong with asking for prayers, but you need to make sure the rest of your family knows what is going on before posting it on the internet. When my grandmother died two years ago, I made damn sure that everybody else knew before I wrote anything. I didn’t want her sisters and brothers and nieces and nephews finding out that way!
Post # 10
This is what happened when my grandfather fell ill and passed away. My dad was talking about visiting him in the hospital in Texas and my aunt posted something about it all before my sister and I were told. Then as soon as my sister and my cousins were all told the first thing they did was go on facebook! Wtf?! What if someone hadn’t been told yet? They shouldn’t have to find out that way!
Post # 11
- Wedding: September 2012 - Mother of the Bride's residence
I have a cousin like that — nearly everyone in my extended family found out my grandmother was dying thanks to FB. I blocked her status updates from my feed becuase I was getting so ragey Mr. D threatened to take my phone away.
Post # 12
My older sister does that and it makes we want to ring her neck!!! and she prematurely announces things before we even know for sure….for instance….my mom had a MASSIVE peptic ulcer and well some of those symptoms mimick cardiac symptoms….well big mouth sister goes and blows up facebook saying that my mom was being life watched to a major hospital a few hours away that we need prayers cuz shes going to have an emergency heart cath and possible bipass….all of this while im sitting in the ER with my mom, and theyd ruled out cardiac about an hour before she posed….and mom was getting an EGD….my phone is going crazy from relatives….and we have no clue why…we did not tell my sister my mom was even not feeling well because she does this….she found out when she came to work ( she too works at the hospital)….and so she refused to work and had to go home because she was emotionally upset so she spent the next 4 hours on facebook….until everything is said and done…then she blammed my dad and i because we did not keep her informed….
so yeah i know how you feel…and I can not stand it….my sister also puts her entire life on facebook….shes one of those… “im going to the store” five minutes later “walking around in walmart” status people…..
Post # 13
- Wedding: December 2012 - Hacienda los Agaves
Ugh I HATE that! Is she young at least?
I have a bunch of lame “I post everything” teenages on facebook, mostly cosins and family friends’ kids. Luckly no one has done something like that, when they post they’re mostly things about their lifes or concerning people I don’t know. My sister used to do it till my dad told her to stop, in how own words: “that’s silly and immature and you look ridiculous to the whole world”.
Last january when FI’s grandma dieds his little siter posted funeral pics on FB (WTF!) as soon as someone saw them they told her how wrong that is and to take them down immediately.
Post # 14
Block her status updates from your feed.
Post # 15
has anyone considered talking to her about it?
Post # 16
Ugh! I hate this too.
I still remember finding out my mother was engaged when my friend texted me that she saw on Facebook that my mom was engaged. I was like WHAT?!
I really hate Facebook sometimes.