Post # 1
My ultrasound just got moved to the 22nd, when I’ll be exactly 19 weeks. I didn’t really talk to my midwife about the ultrasound at my last apt and my next apt is right after the ultrasound. DH and I are worried about being able to tell the gender. The office has regular and 3D ultrasounds, but DH is worried that it’ll be too early to tell. I’m a little worried because in the last two weeks I’ve hear multiple stories of people being told they were having a girl or boy and then actually having the opposite. I’m a little nervous to tell people or buy gender specific things in case we’re told the wrong gender.
Is 19 weeks definitely far enough to tell if the baby is cooperating? Anyone have, or hear of, a gender mix up with a 3D ultrasound after 18 weeks? Are mix ups even that common? What were your experiences finding out the gender?
I am so excited, that I just didn’t want to push it back another week when I had to move the apt.
Post # 3
I was 19 weeks, 2 days yesterday and we found out we’re having a boy. It was pretty clear, its definitely a boy. There is always the possibility for a mistake but I’ve only heard of one within my circle of aquaintences where the mistake was made and that was a good 30 years ago that she was told she was having a boy and ended up with a girl.
Best of luck!
Post # 4
Sorry, I’m not pregnant but I just wanted to say that I don’t think I would tell anyone the sex anyway. I’m afraid of people constantly bothering me about what the name is going to be once they know the sex and junking up our house with all blue or all pink stuff.
Post # 5
@moderndaisy: This was/is something we have been debating. However what usually happens is that I get so excited about something that things slip or I want to tell people. Also, a lot of family have expressed that it’s hard to buy everything gender neutral. Our immediate family knows the names we have picked out, but they also know we aren’t sharing that info with anyone else until the birth (another case of things slipping out because I was so excited). We aren’t planning on having kids back to back, so I’m not concerned with buying everything gender neutral to be able to reuse for the next child. We did register for all of the larger things in gender neutral themes/colors (carseat, stroller, pack n play). And I’m going to try to get most of our cloth diapers in gender neutral colors so that we can reuse them.
I’m more concerned with telling people the gender, getting lots of clothes and toys, and then ending up with a baby the opposite sex.
Post # 6
This is honestly one of the reasons why we probably won’t find out the sex when we are pregnant. Just a few months ago, my friend’s sister had her baby and it was supposed to be a girl and popped out a boy. It does happen, apparently much more commonly when they say it’s a girl. She had washed and put away all her pink clothes and the nursery was girl-themed.
I feel like I will be thrilled beyone belief when we finally have a baby, and I won’t care what the gender is as long as it’s healthy. But, if we’re told one thing, and we get used to that (for me, particularly if we’re told a girl bc I am dying to have at least 1 girl) then we’ll be shocked/disappointed and I don’t want those feelings in the room when the baby pops out!! Not to mention then everything is the wrong color!!!
Post # 7
Just ask the technician and Doctor how positive they are, % wise, Im sure they would be honest. From what I can tell (doing my own research), its pretty obvious at 19 weeks. The problem I heard was that if its before 18 weeks, the penis can look like a clitoris because they are both so small at that age. They should be able to see the ovaries for a girl, and the “turtle” for a boy. The problem Im worried about (16 weeks right now) is the positioning of the baby. If they cant get a butt shot, they might not be able to tell.
Post # 8
We didn’t want to find out anyways, but our baby had his/her legs crossed for the whole ultrasound so they couldn’t tell the sex. I think this happens fairly commonly, I have a friend right now who did want to know and at 31 weeks they still don’t know the sex (2 US later). I’m not fully sure or anything, but I would think it is pretty rare that they get the sex wrong nowadays. I’m sure it happens but I think the technology is so much better no that it’s a lot more rare. Oh BTW, our ultrasound was at about 19 weeks as well and they should be able to tell the sex should the baby be cooperative not like our little one:)
Post # 9
I want to find out the sex so I hope my baby is behaving and not moving around too much like my last ultrasound! hehe but I am not going to have that ultrasound until atleast 20 weeks and I plan to ask my Dr. how sure he is %wise!
Post # 10
I went to school for radiology/ultrasound and there is always chance that what sex they say isn’t correct, but where I went to school we had never had a patient be told the wrong sex of their baby, but sometimes things happen, one of my friends was thought to be a boy because her cord was between her legs in every ultrasound and so when she came out and was a girl it was quite the surprise, that was 25+ years ago though, so I think you have a pretty safe chance of being told the correct sex. And even if the baby isn’t the sex you were told it makes for a great story!
Post # 11
We’re not finding out the sex beforehand. In my experience, this makes people very angry. 🙂 I think we’ll find out with Baby #2 when the time comes. But this time around, we’re going for the surprise. I figure either way I wouldn’t want an all pink or all blue room.
Post # 12
We didn’t find out with Moose because it was going to be a great surprise. It also helped us deal what happened at 34 weeks and 2 days.