Post # 1
I got married in a beautiful ceremony on February 14th, and 2 weeks before my wedding 4 people left the wedding party. And i have to say, it was so enlightening. Yes a little part of me was upset, but mostly i was relieved. I was relieved that they put so much pressure on my then fiance and I, yet we grew stronger together. I was relieved that the drama from the wedding party was out. And it turned out to be even greater than i expected.
Now, one of my friends i know i will reunite with. She has a good heart, and just got caught up in the hype. The other chick and her boyfriend, i could not be friends with again. I wish her all the best, but i could not. Not only was she a bad friend, but she is just quite self centered.
You learn alot about people during the wedding process. Did anyone else have dramatics like this in their wedding?
Post # 3
That is too bad about the 4 members of your wedding party. I have been pretty lucky with my 5 ladies, they all are very helpful and sweet. The only ‘drama’ I have seen from any of them surprisingly was from my childhood friend whose wedding I was just a Bridesmaid or Best Man in this past August, she is still a Bridesmaid or Best Man, no serious dropping out drama, but she is surprisingly the least involved and unresponsive out of everyone. I’m talking she was late to my bachelorette party which she knew about for months in advance for no good reason, didn’t help plan in or even RESPOND to my other BM’s while they were planning it. So no one even knew if she was coming since she didn’t respond. She was also the last to order her dress and it was after several follow up phone calls, emails, texts, facespaces from me. I actually almost called her Mom at one point to see if she was still alive!
Other than that, that’s the bulk of the drama I’ve seen. I’m half expecting her to be late on the actual wedding day, but I’ve already decided we aren’t waiting for her to go around taking pictures or start the ceremony. I’m just going to hope for the best, but be prepared for her to not actually do her Bridesmaid or Best Man duty.
Post # 4
Wow. 4 people left 2 weeks before the wedding? What happened? What is “the hype” you’re referring to?
I’ve wanted to dump a Bridesmaid or Best Man of mine but that’s only cause I don’t really like her that much to begin with and I only asked her because she essentially made me ask her. There hasn’t been too much drama with the BMs that I know of. They are having their own issues in the planning of the bachelorette party because there are a lot of strong opinions in the group but I’m not involved in that at all so as far as I’m concerned everyone is getting along and loves each other. Ahhh blissful ignorance.
Post # 5
I lost a Bridesmaid or Best Man friend, but I also found it enlightening and am much happier. Congratulations on your wedding.
Post # 6
One of the groomsmen pulled out. And had his girlfriend Facebook us and tell us. All this 6 days before the wedding. Only because my groom called them first. If he hadn’t, he would have just never showed up.
Post # 7
I am so sorry to hear about the hardships you had w/ a few of your bridal party attendees – I am thrilled to learn that with their absence you found comfort. Bad energy is something no bride to be should have to take part in. Thats wonderful your special day shined w/out them – – we do learn a lot of lessons throughout the planning of a wedding….
My attendees are my 3 sisters and two bff’s – my sisters don’t have a choice and are ecstatic and my bff’s – they thought I would only have my sisters so they too are super excited, haahaahaa
Post # 8
The Best Man’s Girlfriend told us ONE WEEK before the wedding that she wouldn’t be coming. Considering we only had 6 people at the entire wedding who weren’t relatives, that was a big deal. It was because she was pissed that I didn’t make her a Bridesmaid or Best Man and because her Boyfriend or Best Friend hadn’t proposed yet and she just couldn’t stand to be happy for someone else. We don’t talk to her anymore. She’s pretty much been blacklisted in our lives.
Post # 9
Wow i didn’t realize there were others in similar situations! The drama was actually that my BM’s boyfriend didn’t and doesn’t like my husband. HE tends to be a sneaky, judgmental person. Even when i was friends with him i knew that, which kind of shows how immature i was too. He got his girlfriend, and my best friend and her husband to feel the same way about my then fiance. And the rest is history.
Isn’t it just nutty how people change during the wedding process. Maybe it’s jealousy or true colors just come out.