Post # 1
Just curious, how many of you would say you have found your “passion” in life?
I’m at a standstill. I’m working a job that I think I enjoy (though sometimes I don’t like where I work), but I work so infrequently that I’m kind of miserable and dread working… which I don’t know if its because I don’t work often or I really don’t like my job.
When I first was going to school, I decided to stay home and go to a community college. I was scared to leave home and didn’t know what I wanted to do, so I didn’t want to spend the money. I first was studying International Studies and then switched to Social Work…
I just wasn’t sure if this was it. So, I went to massage school. I was very much into alternative health and still am. I just don’t know if I’m “passionate” about it… not to mention massage is hard work. School was about $8,000 and I spend money after that working on starting my business – all with help from my parents.
Now I’m not sure. Right now I am not happy. I have trouble feeling excited about even being engaged because I don’t have anything else going on in my life (or I don’t feel like it). I love my FI so much, but I get discouraged and depressed..
I’m 21 so I still have time, but I don’t even know what I’m good at. In elementary school my teachers thought I was a genius and by the time I got to 4th grade I was pretty much ignored because I was a wallflower. The only kids who got attention were the show-offs. In high school I had teachers who didn’t even know my name and didn’t really care to. I was never told I was good at anything and I felt discouraged. I didn’t do poorly through school, but I didn’t do great either.
Now I feel stuck. I’d feel guilty if I went back to school for the money that was spent for massage school… and I don’t even know what I would study.
My FI works a job that he sort of likes, but his passion is being an artist and he does that on the side. I envy him so much that he knows what he wants to do and found something he at least enjoys most of the time to make the money that he needs…
How did the rest of you figure your lives out? I don’t think I can feel like this for much longer…
Post # 3
This reminds me of an article that one of my old profs posted the other day that I really loved. I’m stuck in your same situation.
NY TIMES Follow a Career Passion? Let it Follow You
Post # 4
I’m 37 and STILL haven’t figured it out (career wise). I was one of those kids who likes lots of subjects and did fairly well in school. I always thought I’d figure it out – but I haven’t (yet!).
The thing I HAVE learned, though, is to not dwell in the past. If you don’t like the massage field, chalk up your losses, thank your parents for helping you, and try something else. With time, you will start to see things you enjoy or don’t enjoy in different fields.
For instance, right after college, I worked in sales for a well-known company. I realized I hated working for a large corporation, because everyone was clawing for the top, there were tons of fake people, and I didn’t like the people I worked for.
I changed to a small company and realized I really valued working for people I enjoyed being around. I mean – you spend the majority of your day with these people – you might as well like them, right?
My new shift is feeling like I want to do something that contributes to people or betters society in a way… I think my next career leap will be something along those lines….
I also don’t see work as a means to fulfillment – meaning, I see it as an ends to a means. I work to get paid to live… I know people who love their job and look forward to going there every day… I don’t think I’ll ever be one of ‘those’ people.
That’s a lot to say – don’t be discouraged! You aren’t alone! Have you ever taken one of those personality/career assessment tests? I find them very interesting – from the standpoint of seeing themes of strengths/weaknesses for me. I don’t think it’s a crystal ball – but it might be helpful!
Post # 5
That’s a really great article! Thanks for that!! I guess maybe sometimes I just don’t feel like I’m very good at what I do and that I’m not making a difference. I think that’s what it comes down to… or maybe I just need to keep on moving forward and I’ll find that.
Who knows. We’ll see. 😉
Post # 6
@vorpalette: Loved the quote at the end of the article:
“Passion is not something you follow. It’s something that will follow you as you put in the hard work to become valuable to the world.”
Post # 7
@oracle: I actually have taken those tests.. they tend to suggest similar careers for me. Maybe physical labor (which massage is.. man…) just isn’t my thing.
Thanks for your response! I am kind of looking for a job that is maybe an ends to a means as you said… what I’m doing now really isn’t one of those things though. Its really hard work trying to make your own business and I have tried so hard.. but now its just getting depressing and I keep seeing myself fail time and time again. Its almost like the universe is trying to give me a huge hint and I’m not getting it, haha.
Post # 8
I realized what I wanted to do about 2 years ago, but I learned this through my previous job experiences.
I majored in sociology (an extremely vague and to be honest, kind of useless degree) so of course like most arts & sciences majors got a job in Sales right after college. I did enjoy sales becaue I am a competitive person, but I realized it was too monotonous for me.
So then I decided to go into non-profit work because I have been an avid volunteer my entire life and enjoy helping people. So, I got a job in non-profit programs. After 3 years, I leaned that I missed the excitement I felt from sales, but didn’t like being 100% hands on in non-profit programs, and thats when it hit me. My perfect fit would be non-profit development. So, after realizing how much I wanted to build a career in this field, I was extremely selective about what jobs I applied for, until I found my current position.
I am so happy to be doing excatly what I want to & very much want a long and prosperous work future in this field.
My best advice, is to look at the positives and negatives about your past and current jobs. Take all the positives and evaluate what “dream position” would hit those positive marks. Thats how I found excatly what I wanted to do!
Post # 9
I don’t have much advice, because I feel the same way a lot of the time. I have a side business that I’m trying to take full time, but I worry that I just won’t stick with it. I feel like every time I find a new thing I love or am good at, I exhaust myself with doing ONLY that and burn myself out.
I’m sorry that wasn’t helpful at all, I just want you to know you’re not alone in feeling this way! *hugs*!
Post # 10
Can I say something terrible? I don’t think we should pursue solely our passion, nor do I think it magically appears. Jumping into something for “Passion” is short sighted – it burns out. I think we should do something we can wake up for, grow within it and pay the bills. If you truly hate it, move on when the door opens. How can we know our true passions until we try alot of things? (Succeed and fail at a lot of things.) I think too much focus is put on our careers giving us absolute bliss. The truth is, work is work. I think joy in the workplace comes with experience and time.
Below is a really interesting article about this: