Post # 1
Anyone else having just finger foods and dessert? My FI and I want to keep costs WAY down because along with a wedding, we also have to move me across country AND my child is starting college as well.
I think I’ve settled on just doing finger foods and dessert only, then a sit down dinner for the wedding party/immediate family and out of town guests (my family) later that night (we’re going to have an early wedding). Everything should be done by 2pm.
Post # 3
I always caution against doing separate receptions. If someone slips and mentions the dinner reception, it’s going to look bad. Tiered receptions are a little off-putting to me, because you’re basically picking which guests you want to spend more time with.
I like the appetizer and dessert reception idea though; those are always fun and definitely lower the costs, but make sure you have enough food for everyone!
Post # 4
We did a finger food/dessert style reception, no plated meals at all. My family is very casual and we do a lot of buffet style events at family functions, so they aren’t the type of people to look down their noses because they aren’t being served filet mignon on good china. We spent about $10 per head and still had a TON of food leftover. Everybody liked it and the biggest hit was the popcorn bar. Since our reception was only a couple hours, it was nice that people could munch while they walked around and chatted because if we’d made everyone sit down to eat, there wouldn’t have been much time for anything else.
Post # 5
Well, in a way, we are picking which guests we want to spend more time with. My wedding day will probably be the last time I spend a significant amount of time with my family, as I will be moving with him to the South (my family is all in CA). It’s also an opportunity for my (immediate) family to meet his (immediate) family. Because of timing/work/school, etc., they’ll literally fly in on Friday for the wedding and then fly back out on Sunday. Most everyone else at the wedding, we’ll see regularly as they will be my FI’s local family, church friends/family, coworkers, etc.
We opted for an early wedding (like 11am) and immediate reception after and then a dinner much later (think 6 or 7pm), so that all the other guests would be on their way and on to enjoy the rest of their weekend as my family will be flying out the very next day.
Post # 6
I never thought of a popcorn bar!
Post # 7
I’m usually against tiered receptions, but the gap & fact that it sounds like a small dinner at a restaurant make me feel like the second part is more just a send off dinner for family/close friends & not a separate reception for honored guests. Just don’t make a big deal of it with formal invitations and you’ll be fine. I think your desserts/hors doeuvres reception sounds lovely. My sister did one with cheese&crackers, fancy dips, fruit trays, etc. They also served cake & champagne. Presentation is everything, there are a lot of fancy ways to display that kind of food, so you can still have a very nice wedding without a full meal.