Post # 1
Hi Bee’s! I’ve been kicking around the idea of having a first anniversary alfresco dinner party for our bridal party and their SO’s complete with decor, candles, and a photographer(our wedding pics really blew!). Everyone had such a great time at the wedding, we couldn’t think of celebrating with out them. My concern is this; Would it come off as too much? Would our friends and their SO’s think “what the hell is this?”. We’re most certainly not looking for gifts! Just a summer night filled with laughing and reminiscing with good friends over lots of food and wine!
Do I plan a romantic dinner for just the two of us? Is it more imporatant to rekindle the bond just the two of us?
What do you bee’s think?
Post # 2
Well, I never turn down a good party and it sounds like a lovely evening, so I’d be all for it! The only thing that I would find a little off would be a professional photographer. It wouldn’t be too bad if they were very unintrusive and subtle, but I would think it was weird to do formal shots. You could do some posed shots with your hubby before the other guests arrive, then do more casual photography once guests arrive.
Post # 3
I honestly think the professional photographer would be weird, but if you and your friends hire photographers for other non-wedding events, it would be fine. Are you doing a vow renewal or something similar – do you *need* to “rekindle” things? “Rekindling” early on only makes sense if something has happened to ‘put the fire out’ already. I’m all for any excuse for a dinner party with friends, but a first anniversary does seem like a more private, intimate affair. I would do just the dinner for two, without photographer.
Post # 4
I agree with PPs.
Party = awesome
Professional photographer = weird. I’d think you were trying to hard or a bit full of yourself. =/
Post # 5
NikkiKillpretty: That is such a good idea! I think the key is to make it casual. If it were formal it would seem like a small wedding reception (i’ve been to many fancy small dinner recpetions like this) which could give off a weird vibe. But, If it were just a casual summer night with some pretty decorations and a photographer, that would be amazing!
Post # 6
Well initially I agreed with PP’s that a photographer would be weird, However, since this is your bridal party + SO’s they are likely your nearest and dearest and I would guess they probably know you weren’t happy with your original wedding photos? Then, I wouldn’t think it was so weird. Hell- if I was a BM I would totally offer to pull my BM dress out of the closet for a night so you could have your wedding re-do photos!
I think it’s a fun idea for you and the bridal party.
Post # 7
Celebrate your first anniversary privately, just the two of you. Dress up and hire a photographer for that. Hosting a party a year after your wedding and hiring a photographer seems a little Mariah Carey/ Nick Cannon..
I’m not opposed to parties, host one anyways! You don’t need to use your first wedding anniversary as the reasoning, just host a summer party for your family and friends for the sake of it. I do every year, its always such a nice time.
Post # 8
I really think this is going to depend on your crowd. I would find it pretty odd for our group. A regular party would definitely be fun, but I just see first annivesaries as something more private.
Post # 9
I think it’s an awesome idea- and if you’re not happy with your wedding photos – what a lovely way to do something different! Go for it!
Post # 10
I think it could come off a little strange considering that most newlyweds do not choose to celebrate their 1st anniversary like that. However, I would love a good time under the stars. You and your DH would have to be consummate hosts and not the too-cute-for-words “bride and groom” pair… again.
Post # 11
it sounds like too much to me. I knew a bride who wanted to do this & her husband & everybody else were thankful that I talked her out of it. imo, the wedding anniversaries are for the 2 spouses only until it’s been a good chunk of years (10 yrs, 20, 25, etc.)
Everybody dressed up & got together & took pictures and celebrated you two only one year ago. It’d be way too much if everybody did this the year after they got married because agreeing to be in a bridal party would really mean agreeing to that date & the responsibilties during the year of the wedding AND also the year after the wedding. & are the married couple’s feelings going to be hurt if ppl have other obligations/activities planned for that night? It’s also either a lot of unnecessary money for the couple to pay or the bridal party would feel obligated to get a card and/or gift or cover some expenses. In this situation I really think the “one day” was already had and just the couple should be celebrating anniversaries until it reaches a milestone anniversary.
Post # 12
I think that the dinner party part sounds great — I mean who doesn’t like a dinner party (I’m sure some people but you should know your friends by now)
the photog is a little bit less ok to me because that says I am trying to have another “wedding” in my mind. Why not just do an anniversary photo shoot with the two of you together (in your wedding clothes or not)… I suppose you could also do something like a “red carpet” or photo booth that would be more fun photos vs formal portrait session
Post # 13
I think the photographer is weird. I’d leave that part out — Give guests cameras that you can all take pictures of one another. To me, it’ll be a lot more homely.
Post # 14
I don’t see anything wrong with having your close friends over for a dinner party. But yeah photogs are a bit much. Everyone has camera’s.
Post # 15
Yes, having people over dinner is fine. But a photographer and decor and all would look to me like you desperately long to be a bride again and your day wasn’t enough.