- 3 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
Hi all, I’m not sure if this is the proper board to post this on, but I saw gifts and figured I’d try. I have a major dilemma regarding the gift I bought my husband for our first wedding anniversary, which is coming up in November. My husband (and his entire family) are big fans of a football team from a few states away – far enough away that he’s never gone to a game to see them live. However, the day before our anniversary (which falls on a Monday this year), they are coming to a stadium about a half hour away from my mom’s home in NJ. For our first anniversary. I bought tickets for the two of us to travel to NJ and go to the game. I even got a parking/tailgating pass for us to enjoy our wedding cake and some champagne before the game, and I crocheted myself a scarf in the team colors to wear. I was so excited to give it to him and was having a hard time keeping the surprise.
Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, when we received a last-minute wedding invitation in the mail from my husband’s cousin for the day before the game. When we saw them a few months prior, the couple were forthcoming with the fact that they were getting married at the last minute, without any save the date or anything. However, I didn’t anticipate both would be the same weekend. The wedding is several states away, and we cannot do both. Because we had to decide whether we were going to the wedding or not, I had to reveal the surprise to my husband. His feeling is that we should just sell the football tickets and go to the wedding.
I’m honestly confused about what our options are and about what would be right and what would be wrong. None of the rest of his family is going to this wedding, and he was close with his cousin growing up, so he feels it’s on him to represent his immediate family at the event since it’s a wedding and is special. However, it’s also our anniversary weekend (our first anniversary, moreover), and we had plans to celebrate, and they didn’t involve 10 hours in the car to go to someone else’s party (I’m sorry if that’s harsh). My feelings are hurt, but as I said, I don’t know what’s right and what’s wrong, and if I’m wrong for feeling that way. I suppose the “right” answer is to be happy for the other couple.
What would you do in this situation?