Post # 1
So, our one year wedding anniversary is coming up in 3 weeks. The wedding day was awesome, and the first year of marriage has been challenging but also really amazing. I’m excited to celebrate the anniversary of our wedding day and the first year of our marriage. I’m a romantic sentimental type and would really like to do something special.
But – I’m a grad student, and my defense has been scheduled for the Friday after our anniversary. Plus, because of leap year, the actual anniversary is on a Monday. So now I’m really torn about what we possibly can do to celebrate. Originally I had thought we could do a nice trip somewhere, but that’s out of the question now. I still think maybe if my husband could swing taking the day off of work, and my defense presentation is planned in advance enough that I’m not too stressed out, maybe we could do a long weekend trip somewhere, or at least have a fun day playing hooky together with a nice dinner, or something.
But when I asked Husband about this last night, he seemed fairly ambivalent. His response: "You know how I am about dates, I just don’t care about these things." Which is true; for Valentine’s day etc he won’t plan anything unless I pester him (which – in his defense – he is capable of making nice romantic plans, it’s just that I have go bug him about it, or else he won’t do anything). We never celebrated any anniversaries before, since we had no concrete date of when we started dating. Now I don’t know what to do. Also, I really had wanted to make a nice scrapbook as a gift to him, but with writing my thesis I have zero free time right now!
So basically, it seems like my vision of a special romantic anniversary including thoughtful meaningful gifts may not be realistic for us, and I’m pretty bummed about that. I am wondering what the married girls (I know you’re here, just like me!) have done for their first year anniversaries. Or, ladies planning your weddings or not yet to your anniversary, what would you expect to do for your 1 year? Did/would you make it really special? What kind of gifts did you give? Am I being unrealistic for wanting something special? Should I just forget the whole thing, since it’s just another day??
thanks for reading!
Post # 3
I would like to go back to our reception site, which is also a really good restaruant, and have a nice romantic meal. No gifts, I hate gifts. He always spends more than he should. I just like a little romance!
Post # 4
I was in the same situation you are…. I HAD to take a business truip (required for a promotion) the weekend of our 1st anniversary, which was also Father’s Day 2007. Basically, I woke up Sunday morning, called Darling Husband, got on a plane, flew 6hours, got to the airport, ran to give my dad his gift then we went to dinner and came home. It wasn’t what I imagined, but just spending time with my husband made it worth it.
Post # 5
my husband had originally scheduled his written preliminary exam for his PhD the weekend of our 1st wedding anniversary…i was ok with it and planning to delay our anniversary plans for a more convenient time. but he realized i was bummed about it – it’s the only time you’ll ever have your 1 year anniversary – so he rescheduled his exam for the next semester. luckily, it didn’t mess with his PhD schedule much.
i made most of the plans…he usually makes the plans but needed a break ;). we ended up driving a few hours away to spend a long weekend at a bed and breakfast, and we biked some really good trails. it was nice to stay local. i think we got each other gifts but i don’t even remember what they were…it was more the time spent that was nice.
Post # 6
We just got married in March, and I am already thinking of things we can do for our first anniversary. I consider a wedding anniversary a big deal. You don’t have to break the bank, but it is a very special date that deserves recognition, not just any other old day. We have decided, that no matter what, every anniversary we would make every attempt to go somewhere, be it local or a really nice trip. We don’t have the opportunity to travel as we’d like, so at least once a year we’re jettin’ out, just us – no friends, family and no kids. That’s special enough for me.
If it’s special to you, then don’t just say "forget it." Maybe your husband will see how you feel, and meet you halfway. Is it possible that he has something special planned and just doesnt want to let on?
Post # 6
Is it odd I’m thinking, “Since I planned the wedding mostly, my guy can take care of the 1st anniversary?”
Also, how are you guys doing seven years in?
Post # 7
We got take out and cuddled on the couch while watching movies lol. We did get each other gifts tho, he loves looking at the stars at night so I got a star named after him. He got me a beautiful rose gold necklace 🙂
Post # 8
Check out this idea. The first year anniv is paper. My Dreamlines can sketch your gown and his suit. I am much more setimental than my husband, but he did step up and he got me this on our wedding day. My sister in law received this for their one year, which is where my husband stole the idea from. 🙂 http://www.weddingbee.com/wedding-vendor/dreamlines-llc?tab=vendor-portfolio