Post # 1
DH was all excited the other night that he was buying my anniversary present online. It was surprising since our anniversary isn’t until June 26, but I thought that meant it had to be something really good at a really good deal.
It came in the mail yesterday and he said he’d give it to me early. It’s 2 tickets to a play we’ve both been wanting to see for a long time. I think it’s really sweet and a great gift, but the bad part is it’s in April. It’s in the middle of my finals week, and although he checked to make sure I didn’t have a final the next day, I do have one just 2 days later. I hate to be prissy about it, but this is our very first anniversary ever. And we’re going to be going out to a play for it, during my finals week, 2 months before our anniversary. I’m pretty bummed out about it because I think going out 2 months before is going to make our 1st wedding anniversary really lackluster.
I don’t know what to do. I did my best to be all happy and grateful yesterday when he gave me the tickets, and I feel like I can’t bring myself to tell him that it’s kinda not really an anniversary present when it’s so much earlier. But I’m sad that our anniversary won’t really mean much then since we won’t be doing anything for it. I’m sure we’ll have a good dinner, but he spent a lot of money on the tickets so we can’t really afford to spend a lot more on a dinner. Suggestions?
Post # 3
awww. I’m sorry you’re bummed. But I think it’s really sweet he had such forethought for the present though!!!
You can always study extra hard beforehand so you can enjoy the play.
Often times I enjoy our romantic dinner homes way more than going out. Cooking together, music, candles, dancing in the comfort of my own home. Dress up for it!
Do you know what you’re getting him yet? Maybe your gift to him can roll into a “special” celebration closer to your anni?
ETA: Tickets = paper for first anniversary! Bonus points for your husband! 🙂
Post # 4
I got my husband tickets to a concert and the only time they were in the area was early that month but we still celebrated our anniversary and didn’t take anything away from it.
Yes the timing could be better but it is what it is. Consider that night a break and enjoy yourself and your husband. You are lucky because you get to celebrate it TWICE!!
Your anniversary will be what you make of it; if you chin up, it’ll be fun.
Post # 5
I don’t think that counts as an anniversary present, frankly. It counts as a nice night out. A random night. Not an anniversary!
Post # 6
@Gerbera: That’s funny, tickets are paper! His planning ahead is pretty much exactly why I don’t want to say something about it, he never plans ahead so this is something special.
@nyebride: Celebrating twice is what I’m worried about. Financially we won’t really be celebrating twice, because we don’t really have the money to. I don’t know what we’ll do to make it special, so I’m definitely open to cheap or no cost ideas!
@crayfish: That’s kinda how I feel. I’d even say it could be my uber early birthday present (my bday is in August) if we could just keep the anniversary at least in the same month.
Post # 7
I’m trying to think of a nice way to say this. Your husband thought about it, planned ahead and purchased tickets for a play you want to see and you’re not happy with his choice?
You said ” that it’s kinda not really an anniversary present when it’s so much earlier”. Would you feel the same way if he got you a gift that you couldn’t use until later- say a weekend away in September?
I suggest you put your mind to what you can do to make your anniversary special- and it needn’t cost a lot of money. Think of some of the best times you’ve had. I’ll bet some of them were doing simple things together.
Post # 8
You don’t have to spend tons of money to consider it a celebration. Being together and acting goofy would be celebrating. Cooking yourself a nicer meal than normal at home with your anniversary tier would be celebrating. I get that we have one 1st anniversary so we set the bar higher than normal but it’s not worth setting the bar so high that you can’t enjoy it.
We chose to go cheap so we made the food that we ate on our honeymoon: mini hamburgers and fries, Apple Pie sundae and hot chocolate. There should have been pizza but I forgot and we were both stuffed after 1 mini burger. As neat as it was to recreate everything, in the end I so would of just done something more simpler because instead of enjoying the day and spending it with DH, I was slaving away in the kitchen. How fun is that?
Your anniversary will be what YOU make it. I don’t think you are in a bad situation but try to make the best of it that you can.