Post # 1
We just got married a few weeks ago, but after the dust settles I’m considering pitching a low-key renewal to my husband because our actual wedding day was a drama-filled trainwreck. I’d still like to have a special memory for us and my parents, since we were all so upset for much of that day.
Another disappointment was our vows and handfasting; I loved it so much, but none of our guests could hear a word because the officiant didn’t bring her microphone. It’s still upsetting to think about all 20-some guests sitting there, watching our mouths move and hearing nothing. We had a whole paragraph in there thanking our loved ones for traveling far to celebrate with us, for supporting us throughout our lives, etc., and they have no idea. Grrr!
I’m already planning to throw a casual party for NY friends and family who we missed at the wedding, likely next September when our original wedding date had been set. So I was thinking of asking my mom’s family’s pastor to do a surprise renewal, but DH might be more amenable to something quiet and short with just our parents before the party.
Whatever we decide, there will be NOOOOO self-catering at the party! What a PITA that was. And no acceptance of offers to “help” from the in-laws. 🙂
Post # 3
When my FI and I were looking at a venue we saw a picture of a huge themed wedding and we exclaimed how wonderful that looked. He told us that they get married every year….and they’ve been married for 40+ years! How awesome is that?
My FI and I are having a very small wedding because it is all we can afford, we’ll be saving up after the wedding so on our 5 or 10 year anniversary we can throw the wedding we really want.
So I say….GO FOR IT! You deserve to be happy and have a wedding that you can be proud of and happy with.
Post # 4
Do it. Absolutely. If you have the means, and especially if your wedding day wasn’t great, I would do it in a heartbeat.
Post # 5
@JoJoDahling: Aww, married every year for 40 years actually sounds romantic and fun, though I was already prepared to go on an ass-kicking crusade just planning ONE wedding. That woman must really love event planning. 🙂
And that’s a smart idea, to get married now in a low-key, inexpensive way and throw your big bash on a more major anniversary year. And stretching out the planning for that over several years would hopefully be less of a strain, financially and emotionally.
Depending on what we can save for the budget we may have to push the party back, though by next year it will have been three years since I’ve been “home,” and three years since I’ve seen my brother. He has a debilitating neurological disorder and couldn’t fly over to attend our wedding. One more reason I’d like to do some kind of anniversary commitment thing, so we can celebrate with him too.