First appointment to get on birth control Monday! I'm so nervous!

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

It’s really not bad. The doctor will likely do an examination and only the doctor can do it. If you want a woman you’ll need to find a new doctor. My appt lasted like 15 minutes. Take weight, height, blood pressure, exam, sometimes they do pap smears, ask if you have any questions, and then you’re done. I wouldn’t worry about it too much. 

 

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Most likely, the doctor is going to want to do your exam, not a nurse.  You can request that a female nurse be in the room with you while he does the exam, though.

I wouldn’t worry too much about the fact that he’s a man, though.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@katiecat08:  typically they have to do an exam to put you on BC. Maybe it was different because of why you were getting it when you were 15. You can absolutely request to have a female nurse in the room. You can also reschedule your appointment with a female doctor. Is there only 1 doctor at the practice? If there are female doctors and you’re nervous about having a male, I would call and reschedule.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Yep, as other’s said the doctor will be the one doing the exam. You can request a female nurse to be present (some will do it anyway). Otherwise I’d call and change to a female doctor. Are you seeing a regular doctor or an obgyn?

Post # 7
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Busy bee

Are you seeing a gynocologist? if you are uncomfortable w/ a male doctor, find a female one (I feel better w/ a female doctor to look at my parts too). This is a pretty intimate part of the body, so you should ideally feel comfortable w/ the doctor you choose.

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@katiecat08:  You don’t have to have an exam done if you aren’t comfortable. He will likely still write you a Rx.  A female is always (in my experience) present for the exam with a male doctor. If not, you can request one.  If you haven’t gotten an exam yet, you really should start. It’s really no big deal!  

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

The PPs are right that a doctor has to give you the exam, but a request for a female nurse is totally okay.

I have had both a female and male OBGYN over the years.  I had the male one first and it was not nearly as awkward as I had it built up in my head that it would be. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You’ve never ever had a pelvic exam or a pap smear? Assuming you are 18+ that is something you need to do. And no a nurse cannot perform that for you on a whim (or at all for the most part). You would need to make an appointment with a female doctor if you have a preference. 

And don’t be nervous, it really is not a big deal.

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsWBS:  I have always been required to have a yearly exam before they will prescribe or refill a birth control prescription.

@katiecat08:  Personally I would make an appointment with an actual gynecologist. They do these things all day. I would be uncomfortable with my regular doctor doing a pelvic exam.

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would get an appt with a female Nurse Practioner. 

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Westwood:  I think it varies from doc to doc, especially when a PCP is doing the prescribing. I’ve always had to go in annually to get a Rx from my obgyn but I have been able to get a refill from my PCP without the exam. He offered the exam to save me a trip to the gyn but I refused and he has still given me the Rx.  It’s whatever the doc is comfortable with. 

If OP is over the age of 18 and never had an exam, they’ll likely want to do one.  Usually when you’re younger you can get on BC without the exam.

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@katiecat08:  do they know that you made the appointment to get BC? I know that my PCP wouldn’t prescribe BC for me when I had never had an exam. I had to see an OBGYN. You should probably make an appointment with an OBGYN and get an exam since you’ve never had one.

 

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@katiecat08:  I second finding an actual gynecologist to do your pelvic exam and Pap smear. You really are at an age where you should have one done, especially before starting birth control and becoming sexually active. 

I’ve always had a male gyno and feel better with a man anyway. Either way, find a doctor that you feel comfortable with, but the exam isn’t a big deal and is over before you know it!

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