First Birthday Party – What are your feelings?

posted 2 years ago in Parenting
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

ExcitedScaredBee:  i don’t have kids of my own, i have nieces and nephews and cousins. I enjoy going bc I love seeing the kids have fun. 

DH and I have had the talk about big parties (for our future kdis), in our family every kid gets  a big party for everything, baptism, birthdays, communions, etc. It gets expensive! So I told DH that we are either having a big baptism or big first birthday, not both bc it can go into the thousands bc there are so many kids and then there are the parents. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i think it’s your call. we had our son’s bday party at a local pizza place with pizza and beer – tried to make it a party adults would at least enjoy. i think the first birthday party is more celebrating the parents getting through the first year than celebrating the child having a birthday, haha! do what you want!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 1975

ExcitedScaredBee:  Don’t have children of my own, but have friends and family members with children, and I LOVE going to their birthday parties (especially a 1st birthday). Enjoy watching the kids grow up & being a part of their life. It’s great to celebrate the special life of someone. But I totally get where you’re coming from, do what you and your DH are comfortable with!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I don’t mind going if it’s more adult-centered.  I know technically it’s the child’s birthday, but he won’t remember nor will he likely care haha.  Provide food & allow alcohol & DH & I are there to celebrate & bring the little one a gift 😉

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I like going to first birthday parties that are what they really are.  A party for the grown ups.  Parties that pretend to be about the kids drive me nuts.

Have the family over for food and some drinks and it’s all good – a kid themed/kid-centric first birthday party is just annoying.

(Exception – if you’re only inviting parents with other one/two year olds and having a glorified play date I think that’s okay)

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

ExcitedScaredBee:  yeah, that would be AWFUL! 

Based on what you said, I’d skip the baby birthday party all together!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

ExcitedScaredBee:  I’ll be honest. Unless the child is my niece or nephew, I’m in it for the food and booze. Watching them eat their cake is cute but after that, I’m ready to move on.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Honestly I don’t see the point in a giant party for a first birthday (like the one North West had). But it should be celebrated for sure. Invite parents, siblings and maybe a close friend or 2 over for cake and pizza. Doesn’t have to be anything fancy. But watching a 1 year old smash cake into their faces is amazing. My niece never had sugar until her first birthday cake and held it up like a prize.

Enjoy your weekends while you can. Friends of mine with kids (particularly when they get to school) have birthday parties to attend just about every weekend.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I love my friend’s kids. I really do. And I love to buy them presents and celebrate them. What I don’t love is parties that involve a bunch of different groups of people all lumped, awkwardly together and expected to socialize. So, I think parties are just fine. But you don’t need to invite everyone from each of your social circles. Do family or close friends or whatever.

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t go to first (or any children’s) birthday parties, but I am fortunate not to have to turn down such invitations because it is not a practice amongst my friends.

Luckily all of us have the same beliefs- that children’s birthday parties are for immediate family only, adding a few friends when they are older.

In some cultures it is common to hold more elabortae parties. In that case “Sorry, but I have a previous engagement.”

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

ExcitedScaredBee:  hahaha you are just like me. i love that rule – same here. no bridal shower and no baby shower bc people generally attend out of obligation!!

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