- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2013
So.. my girls and I finally made it out to the stores today to start looking for bridesmaid dresses. First let me start by saying, all five of my bridesmaids are from all over the city & state. One of them was nice enough to take time out of her busy family life (she’s a navy wife) and fly across the state for the weekend to go bridesmaid dress shopping with us. So, we were pretty much out the whole day.
I only had three preferences for my bridesmaids — 1) dress color is plum 2) floor-length
3) all wear the same style dress
All of my bridesmaids pretty much had a good attitude. They picked out good, stylish dresses, and I agreed with their selections. Except for one BM. From the very beginning, she would complain about how every dress made her stomach look fat (even if the dress had ruching), or how it made her arms look big, or her butt look big, etc… it kept going ON and ON and ON. The one dress she did like, unfortunately didn’t come in PLUM (the shade of purple they had was totally different) So of course, that particular dress would not be included in the Top 3. So, on to the next store… same thing. I don’t like this, this makes look this, that, WAH, WAH WAH, gums flapping all the way!
By this time, I had tuned her out. I kept saying nicely — there’s nothing wrong w/ you! There’s nothing you have spanx can’t fix! (ie, big stomach, big hips, etc…)
So, on the ride home (she left her car at my house so I had to drive back w/ her), she still kept complaining about the dress and kept saying how she LOVED the dress that does not come in the color of the wedding! I just said.. OH WELL, dress has to be plum. And I changed the subject.
I come home and tell the FH this. And he’s a bit ticked off — he’s a groomzilla, to say the least, and he knows picking out a dress is very stressful to me. He suggested (strongly) to “boot” this BM out. We don’t need her complaints, she’s obviously not helping, and with the stress involved in planning a wedding, we certainly don’t need this extra aggrevation.
Should I give this BM another chance? She also suggested on the way home that maybe they can just rent their BM dresses. I don’t see a problem with that, if they’re OK with wearing a dress that someone else has worn before. She also kept asking me.. after the dress is worn, what would she do with it? More like implying… its a waste of money.. over $150 for a dress that will only be worn once.
Any advice? I really don’t even know if I should do a day 2 of BM dress shopping with this particular BM. It’s pretty emotionally draining. I feel like just telling all of them which exact BM dress & shoes to wear.. tell them to order their size and alter as needed, and call it a day!