First bridezilla moment. (that i've noticed)

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I flipped out when an invited couple rsvpd for their non-invited kids.  I was just kind of shocked that someone would do that, I guess, and started yelling about how I wasn’t having any damn kids at my wedding blah blah blah.  FI said I was being a bridezilla, which only made me madder, of course.  But then after I calmed down, we just called the mom and she was totally happy to get a sitter.  Crisis averted.  lol

Post # 5
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Blushing bee

hahaha I would have asked my mom to butt out. Period. Tongue Out

 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Anna10-05-2014:  Yeah I would have had to have a tactful conversation with my mom about letting me have the reins… I don’t know how many people you can invite but for me I couldn’t really allow my parents to invite too many of their friends (they get about 10 couples) because there just isn’t enough room. I almost think their getting more friends than me because my family and FI’s family is so big. Honestly, I do not think you are a bridezilla and I think it might be good for you and your mom to get on the same page about everything, because it will likely continue to happen. Let her know to clear stuff with you first ro work together on things before making a decision without your opinion. That is not bridezilla at all.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

Yay for calming down!

Personally I would have just told her she couldn’t invite the girl just because she’s not invited to the wedding.  With that being said I didn’t hear the conversation nor do I know your situtation.  I’m sure you made the right choice for you.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Anna10-05-2014:  I spent 2 days obsessing over chair covers before suddenly I snapped back to reality and realized that I don’t care at all.  It’s easy to get caught up in the details and nearly impossible to avoid the marketing and hype of the industry.  Good for you for realizing your bridezilla moment before acting on it. 

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I can so relate!  I started crying about the style of BBQ catering for our e-party – I want (and am getting hehe) BBQ food but I wanted it done by a more upscale caterer than by the pit-boss type that my dad suggested.  FI had to remind me that I was going full-fledged bridezilla cray and I calmed down and appoligized.

TBH though, everyone`s used to me being pretty emotional. I like to think it’s part of my charm Innocent

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

It’s good you calmed down and handled it well but don’t think you are supposed to have bridezilla moments. You aren’t. Party planning should not turn you (general you) into a bitch. It’s nice you calmed down but remembering your mother is throwing you a big party might have helped you avoid the tantrum in the 1st place.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I had more of a “momzilla” moment with my mom…I’ll try to make this short…lol

Mom asked me to send her the links to the dinnerware/napkins/silverware that I wanted her to order.  I spent hours researching the best deals I could get, and sent it to her.  Among them were…black linen napkins and black plates.  We are doing a dinner buffet, so in my mind the plates would be at the bar (we had discussed this) & napkins set out nicely on the table.

Mom e-mails me and says we should do white napkins because they would stand out on the plates and that we should set out plates on the table now instead of putting them at the buffet.  I said OK, that’s fine. 

Then, she e-mails me again saying she wants to get the “nice” paper napkins from the same website because they were cheaper and she wouldn’t have to worry about washing napkins after the wedding. I told her that FI and I both perferred the linen napkins and that we would buy them (we are paying for half of the wedding, my parents are chipping in the other half) and worry about washing them for her. 

Well, she ordered samples of the “nice” white paper napkins, plates, silverware etc. and called us to come over and check it out.  When we saw the white paper napkins, FI and I both said (to each other) that they reminded us of the white cloths mechanics use.  When mom came in, I told her “everything looks good, but maybe if we have to go with the paper napkins we should get a different color other than white, we don’t really like these that much.”

This turned into her yelling and cursing at me, which led me to yelling back, crying, and arguing in circles over nothing. My dad literally had to come into the room and tell us to shut-up.  I cried some more, and FI and I eventually left to go back home.

Two days later, she e-mails me at work to say she’s sorry, she’s been really stressed out with work and helping me with the wedding, and that she knows I’ve been stressed with work and the wedding also.  I apologized to her also and said that we could use the paper napkins she got, that was the end of it. 

Then today, she e-mails me pictures she took of different ways to fold the napkins with the silverware.  THE NAPKINS IN HER PICTURES WERE LINEN!!  I called, confused, and she tells me “Well, I ordered samples of the linen ones just to see what they look like, and they are a lot brighter white than the paper ones, and compared to your centerpieces (white silk roses) the paper napkins look dingy, almost beige, even your dad said so, plus they really aren’t much more than the paper ones, so I’m going to just order the linen ones if that’s ok with you.  Oh, and I also ordered you black beverage napkins personalized with y’alls name and date in white writing, hope that’s ok!! “

I looked at FI like “You have got to be friggin kidding me, all of that fighting for her to just decided *on her own* to do what I originally said we wanted!”

 

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

whoa…sorry so long! 🙂

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My first bridezilla moment (thank goodness I was alone) was when I got my fabric bouquets in the mail that cost an arm & a leg, & they looked like crap. I threw the BIGGEST hissy by myself in my apartment that I think I’ve EVER thrown. I think I cried & kept saying the phrase “those look like garbage!” over and over for about 30 minutes.

Finally, I sat down & tried to fix them myself & it looked somewhat better, but even now they aren’t nearly as nice as the pictures of what I thought I was buying. I eventually contacted the etsy seller & told them in a fairly nice manner (thank goodness for giving myself 24hrs to cool down!) that they were not as I had expect, & they also didn’t follow directions that I gave them about color and stem wrapping.

They ended up refunding me $60 (out of $405, so not really THAT great) but at least I got something.

I’ve had a couple since then too, but I don’t think they have been all my fault.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Anna10-05-2014:  I sort of had a bridezilla moment last night, but I’m not sure whether or not it qualifies as one!

I’m already freaking out a bit that my two MOHs (who comprise my bridal party) ordered their gowns from a bridal shop in Ft. Lauderdale that also provides nationwide online ordering (one MOH scoped the place out online, insisting that it’s legitimate). I reluctantly agreed to it, as the gowns are about $50 cheaper than what they would be through a bridal shop around our area or through Weddington Way. However, I’m now finding out that there have been several reported problems of people not receiving their orders on time, even with rush fees and ordering with plenty of time in advance (my MOHs ordered in early June). If they don’t get their dresses by early September, I’m going to FLIP OUT. I just have this horrible, sinking feeling now. My FH, his two best men, and my dad have already been fitted for their tuxes and I just had my final fitting on my gown yesterday, so everything hinges on these gowns arriving from FL. I’m SO nervous. So I voiced my worry to FH last night, and he told me to calm down — it’s only July 20th.

Other bridezilla moments — waiting impatiently for RSVPs to come in, even though we set an early RSVP date. I’m so impatient and I like instant gratification.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Anna10-05-2014:  DH called those “Brideosaurus” moments. When I was NEARLY a Bridezilla, but managed to pull my shit together and not openly freak out on anyone–just to myself!

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