- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
Curious to everyone’s status?
Curious to everyone’s status?
We got married on NYE and it was amazing! We both want kids and will absolutely love being parents, just not yet. We plan on waiting about 2 1/2 years to start trying, so our first baby will hopefull be born around our 3rd anniversary or a bit later.
We are on the fence about having kids. Right now we both don’t really want one but IF we decide to it would definitely be 2-3 years from now.
i would say age has a factor in it too. i got married at 32, DH 35. we started right away.
if we were in our 20’s, we would have waited a year or so before starting.
@SamanthaLovesJames: Unless there is a pressing time issue (i.e. you’re 40 and you need to start TTC ASAP) then I have always thought that spending your first year together as a married couple without a child or pregnancy is a good idea. I think it’s an especially good idea if you’ve never lived together because learning how to live together takes some time. Marriage shouldn’t change your relationship profoundly but there are some changes in the first year or two that I believe need to be dealt with before adding a baby to the mix because babies are inherently stressful the first year or two.
Can a marriage work if you get pregnant on your honeymoon or during the first year (or before you get married for that matter)? Absolutely. But if one year just as a married couple can give you a more solid foundation for your relationship, I think it’s a good investment in your longterm relationship.
I think it depends on your age and under what circumstances you get married. DH and I saved up for a house because that was our priority. Then came marriage… our next financial splurge. Now, as I begin my 30s and he finishes his 20s, we are preparing to have children. It seems like it’s all happening close together, but it isn’t… it’s happening as fast as our age and financial circumstances dictate.
I chose other because SO have decided to try for a baby soon, we aren’t engaged and currently have no plans for marriage. A baby however is something we are both on board with!
We started TTC a few months before the wedding as we are mid/late 30’s.
It really just depends on where our lives take us in the next couple of years. If I get accepted to the grad school I am looking at which is located abroad we will be getting married when I am 22 and he is almost 24. If that’s the case we will definitely be waiting 5+ years to have children. If I don’t get accepted to school, and I end up going to grad school in the states or not at all we will probably hold off on getting married for a few more years then have kids a bit sooner after.
We got married in October, and are still on the fence about having kids, but if we do, we’d be waiting 5-7 years. Even though I think about it here and there, DH and I have agreed not to talk about it too much, and just enjoy married life for now.
The plan is to wait a year or two, but we’ll see… 🙂
We have been married almost 5 months and will probably go off the pill within the next 6 months. I’m 28 and my husband is 38, so age plays a big factor. We were also together for 5 years when we got married, so we didn’t feel like we needed to be married for years before we start trying.
I’ll be 29 when we get married, so I think we’ll start around the one-year mark.
We’ve been married for two and a half years, and I’m still not ready for kids. We may reassess around five years or so. 🙂
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