- 5 years ago
So my future SIL is the only girl. She has an older brother and younger brother (my FI). Anyhow, several years ago their dad was having a bout of serious PTSD from something that happened when he was in the Air Force back in the 80’s so he left his family and wife of 32 years before he could hurt anyone (which he never thought of doing but was afraid it would happen). My Future Mother-In-Law completely broke down and her oldest son built this hatred for his father. So when my Future Sister-In-Law announced her engagement about four or five years ago her older brother had said that if she invited their dad he wouldn’t go. So she decided she would rather have her big brother there than her father (which she regrets to this day) and because of that decision she had to frofeit her dream of a church wedding, having her father walk her down the aisle, and not having a father-daughter dance. She cries whenever anyone brings up her wedding. She ended up having a Vegas wedding and although she was happy she married the love of her life, she regrets her decision. Let me just say that her father walked her older’s brother’s wife down the aisle when they got married because she didn’t want anything to do with her dad. :/ So now that my fiance and I are going to get married next year it just brings all those memories back for her and it makes me feel so bad. Things have gotten so hostile around her. Her dad never has been to any of his grandkid’s birthdays because of the older brother. Last year he spent Thanksgiving, Father’s Day, and Christmas Eve alone because of the older brother. THIS year she is so fed up with how childish her brother is and told him that if he didn’t want to see his dad not to come to her twin daughter’s birthday party.
Then there is a whole seperate issue with my future BIL and SIL (the older brother’s wife not my fiance’s sister) because for whatever reason they are just flat out rude to me. I used to think it was because I was only 19 and they are 31 so maybe it was just an age difference. But now that I have been around them long enough I found out it was because they thought I wasn’t good enough for their brother. They also think that I am ungrateful for what my Mother-In-Law does. (She paid for my schooling and pretty much pays for everything while I am working on getting my education. yay! one more month left!) IDK but we had a huge argument with them because my fiance asked his brother if he was going to skip our wedding because their dad would be there and his said “are you getting married tomorrow? If you are then the answer is no.” My fiance said no it’s next September and he said” I don’t know. I’n not a fucking fortune teller. I can’t tell the fucking future.” So we pretty much have our answer. :/
Oh my goodness, I totally got off topic. Okay so what I was thinking of doing for my SIL is having a special segway at our reception (probably right after our first dance) where we play her wedding song (that she walked down the aisle to) and invite her and her father to the dance floor and give them their father-daughter dance. I would also like for her husband to dance with my Mother-In-Law. I know it’s not quite the same thing but what you ladies think? is this a good idea???