- 8 years ago
- Wedding: October 2010
My fiancé and I don’t know how to dance and I am cringing at the thought of our first dance with all eyes on us. We don’t have time to take lessons so we are just going to have to wing it. I haven’t slow danced since grade school. My fiancé and I like to go dancing at a local dance club on occasion, but that’s only when we’ve had a few drinks and even then we just goof around. I want to forego this part of the wedding, but I know it will be expected and guests might find it odd or rude if we don’t do it. I’m also afraid I will regret it since it’s such a tradiional part of a wedding.
So my question is: Are you planning on taking dance lessons? If not, are you going to “wing it” as well?
Also, my fiancé and I want to request that our guests do not bring boxed gifts (unless they have already purchased something or have their heart set on a particular gift). The reason being is that our venue is 1 1/2 hours away from home and we are leaving for our honeymoon the very next morning. I can have a relative help bring some things back to my house, but I don’t want to put the burden on someone to load up a ton of gifts in their car and be responsible for them.
Is this a rude request, given our circumstance?
Second: My aunt suggested we do a money (or dollar) dance and let guests know that while we don’t expect anything from them (that their appearance is a gift in itself) that they can participate in the money dance by pinning money to my dress. I know I said I hate to dance, but it will be later on in the reception when I have loosened up and have a bit of liquid courage (I know that’s bad but I’m shy).
Would this be considered greedy? I’ve heard it’s pretty common. We are paying for the wedding ourselves and could use the money towards our honeymoon.
Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated.