Post # 1
I got a referral from my primary dr to see a Dermatologist to look at some questionable moles…
Today the referral went through and the office called to schedule the apointment for next week. I am now realizing that its a male dermatologist. Am I just being sensitive… or is it awkward to have a male Derm look over your entire body?
I have never been to a Derm before… so I guess I’m just wondering what to expect and if anyone else has ever gone to a male dr. and what their experience was like!
Also, on a side note. One of the questionable moles is on my back.. right above the line of my wedding dress, if they do end up cutting off the mole how bad is the scaring and how long do you think it will take to heal?
Thanks for any input!
Post # 2
- Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI
I wouldn’t worry about going to a male doctor. I was always a little nervous about going to a male doctor when it came to pelvic exams but when I had an emergency come up and only a male doctor was available, I could not have cared less! They’re professionals and in my case a female nurse was in the room the whole time too. But they see tons of patients and while I am sure they give you the time and medical attention you require when you see them, I doubt most would recognize you on the street or anything else. I just assume doctors both male and female have pretty much seen it all and nothing about me would shock them so I shouldn’t I feel uncomfortable around them.
Post # 3
It can take a good six weeks to two months months to heal and even longer for the redness to fade. Although they do a full body check, I don’t think you will feel too uncomfortable with a male dermatologist.
Post # 4
I had a mole removed about a year ago, and it healed fairly quickly. I had stitches to bind the skin together, and had to leave them for 6 weeks. Now, the scar looks sort of like a faded burn mark, and is about the circumference of a pencil eraser.
Post # 5
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
britty: Mine was entirely professional in examining my skin for any concerning marks or growths. Unless you are sunbathing topless or nude in an tanning bed, there really isn’t any reason for him to be closely examining your lady bits unless you have a specific concern. I wouldn’t not go just because it’s a man but if I felt uncomfortable during the exam I would end it and leave.
Post # 6
I’ve been to a male dermatologist for an all body check. I don’t think it was any more awkward than having a female dermatologist. He also had a nurse in the room- it’s common practice to have a second hand anyways, but it’s also reassuring for any patients who might be nervous about being left alone with an opposite gender doctor.
The healing process depends on the mole. The larger it is, the longer it will take to heal. If they find it questionable, they may want to do a biopsy first, which will probably involve stitches for about a week. This should heal pretty fast. An actual mole removal will probably take longer, but it really depends on the mole.
Post # 7
- Wedding: November 2014 - The Celebration Farm
I saw a male dermatologist for a questionable mole and it was completely fine. I ended up having to have the mole “punched” for testing. That left me with only three little stitches. It came back as pre-cancerous, so they had to then take a bigger section of skin around the mole. After that, I had to have 13 stitches. It took about 3 weeks to heal and now it just looks like any other scar – really close to my skin tone but very smooth. There was a female nurse in the room the whole time too if that helps ease your fears. Like another poster said, unless a mole in question is in a sensetive area, they won’t need to be all up in there anyway.
Post # 8
I’m in medical school so I’m close the medical field. I don’t think it is odd at all. However, you should have a doctor that YOU feel comfortable with. I’ve always been of the opinion that clinical naked and sexual naked are very different and feel very different to me.
Post # 9
All my doctors are male, even my GYN. They normally have a female nurse present in the room when they examine female patients so I wouldn’t be too worried if I were you.
Ive also had moles removed by laser and the scarring was minimal. Is laser an option for you at all?
Post # 10
LittleE3: Thanks for giving me a different perspective… I guess there is a difference between “clinical” and “sexual”
Trinisexy2: Is laser an option for me? I guess thats a good question to ask the dr next week! thx
beachbride1216: No topless tanning here… so hopefully thats all good
Post # 11
- Wedding: April 2015 - Miami, Fl
I work at a dermatologist office. I work with 2 male doctors and 2 female PA’s (physician assistanst). The doctors usually have the PA’s in the room when they do body checks. Don’t worry at all! At my office they freeze precancerous moles with cryo and if it looks suspicious they’ll do a biopsy. The biopsys are small. They inject the spot with lidocane and “shave” it off. If they do have to cut anything off, use Mederma once the site is healed to minimize scaring.
Post # 12
britty: I don’t think it’d be awkward at all. They are professionals, after all.
I had a mole removed on my stomach. To lessen the scarring, the nurse recommended that I keep it covered with lotion or Vaseline – apparently if the skin is kept soft, it will scar less. My scar is still there (after a couple months), but its only a red line – not bumpy at all, and therefore easily coverable with makeup.
Post # 13
britty: also a good friend on mine had skin cancer. She has a scar on her arm but it isn’t intrusive and many people wouldn’t notice it if she wasn’t so vocal about her cancer ( she speaks out about suncreen use and skin safety) I’m sure you will look beautiful on your wedding day. Also, if they are concerned but it isnt an immenant threat maybe they could wait till after your wedding?
But seriously, in med school we physically examine each other all the time. I’ve been in a bra in front of most of my male classmates. We basically practice on each other so many times that we don’t even feel weird about it anymore, and these are friends so it is harder to clinically detach.
Post # 14
My dermatologist is male and he is great. I have to go to him every 6 months for a full body check. I did have a questionable mole removed from my back but ended up going to a plastic surgeon because the back can scar easily. I had it removed in August and there is still a scar but not bad.
Post # 15
I had a mole removed from the edge of my pubic mound when I was about 20. My GP at the time was a man, and there was no akwardness during the procedure. I’ve also had consultations with male gynaes, and those are no more akward than gynea visites in general.
What I’m trying to say that I don’t find that a doctor’s gender is a factor for how embarrassing or akward I find a medical visit.