First Dress Appointment Dilemma

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
1062 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

It’s just a bridal appointment. I think shows like Say Yes to the Dress make dress shopping seem like it’s something where you find “The Dress” right away and commit to buying. 

Just treat it like a fun shopping experience. You’re just looking, trying to figure out what styles and silhouettes look good on you. There’s no requirement to buy a dress while your mother is in town. Just make it a special day for your mom. If you happen to find something, then just come back another day to buy it. 

Don’t tell your mom or the bridal consultant anything and go have fun.

Post # 3
103 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

You don’t have to tell them anything about whether you intend to buy or not.  Just tell the consultant what you like and don’t like in general (lace or no lace for example) and just try on a lot of dresses and have a good time.  If anything does catch your eye, make note of the style number so when you’re ready to buy you can come back and find it quickly.  Have fun and don’t feel pressured to say yes to anything!

Post # 4
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I did the same thing (went with my mom shopping in April 2013 and my wedding was August 2014. 

Don’t pressure yourself to find the dress – that made the appointment so fun. We went into it saying we were just looking to ourselves.

We ended up finding THE DRESS, and bought it that day (we already had the venue booked etc). I never had one second of dress regret and I loved my dress on the day!

Post # 6
458 posts
Helper bee

I agree with everyone else; even if you go and just see if you look better in white or ivory and see what silhouettes and fabrics you like best, it’s still like the experience of actually getting a dress.  And you may not find anything you’d be comfortable buying for your wedding anyway!  Just go to have fun.  I think it would be okay to tell the people that this is your first time looking and you probably don’t want to commit to a dress immediately, but you’re getting a head start 🙂

Post # 7
613 posts
Busy bee

lmwiggins6216:  So I did something similar so I thought I would share. My cousin was in town a week or so after I was engaged and I too was not ready to be buying I didn’t even have a date or venue. We’re really close so I thought lets go look at dress styles so she can share something wedding related. I went in completely open minded to look at color, style, cut and just have fun. we tried on a bunch and started narrowing down what looked good on me. I brought a few people and let them each go pick something that would like to see me in. Turns out my Mother-in-law and my mom have great taste and picked me this dress and I was in love. I ended up buying it. A year later I still love my dress and still have 8 months to go. In retrospect I prob. should have just taken down the dress number and ordered it later if I still was in love with it. But going in and trying on just everything was so fun! like others said Just have fun with it and enjoy the moment with your mom.

Post # 9
93 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 -

lmwiggins6216:  Agree with other posters, use it to share thr experience with your mum. I couldn’t due to distance and I really missed that! And get to know what silhouettes look good on you, you may be surprised and will start looking at different dresses. I found that a lot of things I thought I’d like didn’t look great on me and also that the dresses that looked amazing I wouldn’t have picked myself. You’re not obliged to purchase straight away, you may not even see anything you want at the first appointment. I think that’s pretty normal. Have fun!

Post # 10
732 posts
Busy bee

lmwiggins6216:  Be open. Enjoy the eperience with your mom! I bought a dress at the first shop I looked at and I felt so beautiful in it!! However, enjoy the day and have fun! Looking at dresses is something you only get to do once!

Post # 11
1319 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

same dont tell them that. i also went window shopping more than a year before and ended up finding my dress and purchasing that same day. 

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