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    mommytobee    January 3, 2010  

    Little E will be 5.5 weeks old on our wedding anniversary. The day before that, I have my appointment with my OB, where I should be cleared for exercising and other fun stuff that DH and I have been looking forward to. :)

    I'm thinking of surprising DH with a fun evening out, just the two of us... but I'm wondering, is it too soon?

    We're breastfeeding now, but trying to introduce bottles (with expressed mommymilk) since yesterday - did not go super well, but we should get there by next week...

    When did you first leave your LO with relatives for one-on-one time with your DH?

     
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    MarryMeTiffany    November 30, 2011   Illinois

    I had my son when I was 19 but I didn't leave him over night till he was 3 months old and it was rare. The first 2 years of his life I maybe left him 4-5 times. I think it's kind of early for an entire night away from your LO.

     
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    bride21    February 19, 2011   Springfield, MO

    We left our son with people a few times when he was about 2 months old but never over night until we went on our honeymoon when he was 8 months. I think it really depends on the child and how the parents feel.

     
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    Eva Peron    November 2011  

    I think an evening out like dinner, movie or snuggling at home while baby is with relative  for a few hours is fine. An overnight may be a little much, but do what you feel is right.

     
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    HopingToBeaMama    April 9, 2009  

    I think one-on-one time with you hubby is a GREAT idea. I don't think it's too early. I think if the baby is taking a bottle, then it will be good for both you and your hubby to have a night together. And I think it's so easy to get caught up in routine and tough, sleepless nights when you have a baby. So by spending some alone time with your husband, you'll come back to your baby refreshed! PLUS, I'm sure your family would love some one-on-one time with the baby.

     
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    mommytobee    January 3, 2010  

    Yeah I was definitely not thinking overnight here... even if baby was ready for that, mommy is not! :) But a few hours alone with DH on our anniversary to go out to dinner and spend some quiet time at home, I would love that.

     

     
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    MarryMeTiffany    November 30, 2011   Illinois

    @mommytobee: Oh ok I thought you ment over night if it's just for a date night with your hubby then go for it. Your LO is old enough to handle that. Most people people are sending their LO's to daycare at this point.

     
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    ams12    November 28, 2010  

    Go for it. I am all about keeping a life after baby. If your comfortable with a relatiive and the feeding issue is covered then go for it. I wouldn't think twice about leaving my DS ( 5 weeks today!) with my mother if DH and I needed a night out. When he was 2 weeks old DH and I went out for lunch while my mom watched him and I have left him a few other times with her while I had a dr apts or needed to run an errand.

    We are also going away for a night when DS is 2 months old to celebrate my 30th and DH and I are really looking forward to that. It's def a must to go out and have alone time with your DH. Enjoy! 

     
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    Sassygrn    June 4, 2011   Minnesota

    I had to leave my son in the hands of good care early in his life. He was born 7 weeks early so after I was released from the hospital, I had to leave him every night.  When we finally came home, the first week my mom stayed with us and end of that week my husband and I were finally able to go out for my birthday dinner. So we left our son with my mom for a few hours. He was a month old.

    I say go for it, if you have someone you trust to watch your LO, then definately take your husband out. It is important that mommy and daddy have time to themselves also. 

     
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    Tatum    October 2, 2010   Minneapolis

    My mom babysat for me when my daughter was only 10 days old. I had to go into work for something that couldn't wait, so my mom stayed with the baby and I was gone for about three hours. Then when she was about 2 weeks old my mom came over to watch her again while I ran to the town hall to get the baby's birth certificate.

    My MIL came over to watch the baby for our 'date night' when the baby was around 6 weeks old. Pretty lame date night though- we just went to Target to buy diapers and baby supplies and then hit the drive thru on our way home.  We did have a real date night around thanksgiving  when my parents could come watch her which would have made the baby about 2 months old. Husband doesn't like to leave her with his mother or sister, and my parents live out of state, so our opportunities to go out are few and far in between. Our next date night is going to be in Feb.

    When we go out though, we still have to be back in by 11 or so. Daughter wakes up multiple times during the night and I wouldn't expect anyone else to go without sleep taking care of her.

     
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    Mrs. Spring    May 10, 2009   California

    I say, if you're comfortable with it, go for it!  The first time we left DD, she was about 8 weeks, but it was too soon for me.  I cried the whole time.  :(  But everyone has different timetables, and if you feel ready, try it out!  The worst that happens is you feel it's too soon and end up cutting your evening short.  :)

     
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    camrie    September 5, 2010   Louisville

    Just feed him before you head out and don't spend the whole evening away if he's not taking a bottle yet. Or if he goes to bed early that might buy you a little more time between feedings.

     
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    flamingred    June 19, 2010  

    Bring a little breast pump! The first night I went out for a few hours, I had to pump in the bathroom because it was so painful.

     

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