Post # 1
Has anyone else ever experienced this? Like the polar opposite of losing weight and being able to have your dress taken in or exchanged for a smaller size? I went for my first fitting yesterday, about 3 months after I’d purchased my dress. And I DIDN’T FIT IT well enough to keep that size. It would have required enough alteration around the hips/middle/back that it would have been more difficult and probably a lot more expensive for me to have it altered, than to just trade it in for the next size up and have it brought in around the middle where it needs to be, etc.
I was SO DEPRESSED. And of course, I don’t hide things from my fiance and so when I came back out of the store, I told him and I told him I was feeling depressed and so disappointed in myself and my lack of control over my own body, my size, even my comfort eating. I’ve had an outstanding amount of overwhelming stress in basically EVERY area of my life for over a year now . . . . not to use that as an excuse, but I definitely know it didn’t help me out in the weight loss/healthy living aspect! :-T
Anyhow, life goes on. And the GOOD news is, I can STILL have my same “dream dress,” just slightly larger in size and altered but no one will have to know the difference outside of my fiance and my MOH whom I gave my sob story to yesterday! And it will all work out. Granted, I WILL be getting my new dress only 2-3 weeks BEFORE our wedding date (GULP) but it’s supposed to come in and I will have an immediate alterations/fitting session, and I think it will be BEAUTIFUL.
For me personally, I wanted to lose some weight/trim up before the wedding so I would feel confident in my looks, without looking more pudgy than I have ever before in my WHOLE LIFE. I’m just going to keep chipping away at the gym and at my diet and pray for the best . . . . I guess that’s all I can do? I just wanted to know if anyone else encountered this sad, nightmarish issue!!!!
Post # 3
AWw, I’m sorry to hear that 🙁 But the bright side is that now you don’t need to worry about it being too small so all that stress is taken off your shoulders. Maybe without that stress, you can be more focused on eating right and working out because you WANT to, not because you have to.
And my dress was about 2 sizes too small for me when it finally came in 3 weeks before my wedding. It wasn’t because I had gained weight, I had actually lost almost 10 lbs since it I was measured for it. The stupid dress shop got the measurements wrong and kept pushing the date back for it to arrive. It was the biggest nightmare of my wedding, I can’t even express how stressful it is to have a dress be too small. They did end up being able to take it out enough, thankfully partially because I had lost so much weight.
Post # 4
I can see why this would be a bummer and stressful. I’m sorry you had to deal with that, but for the benefit of a happy bride and a beautiful bride, you can count on a perfect fit the day of the wedding. Hey, isn’t that what the fitting is for!? You are going to look gorgeous. No one will know you gained an inch or two (except you) what they will notice is how gorgeous you are in a flawlessly-fitted dress!
=) Keep your chin up (it makes your face look thinner!) Lol.
Post # 5
Hey, I bet your FI loves you for you… and that’s what matters! I understand your disappointment but you will be a beautiful bride no matter what!
Post # 6
Thanks for all the encouragement and positivity!
Turns out, today I got the notice that my special-order gown in the next size up just came into the store today! So I COULD go in for my first fitting VERY soon. . . . likely this Sunday or the next weekend . . .
My question is, now, after knowing that I gained weight between May and August and so had to re-order my gown, should I go get my first dress fitting NOW (MY WEDDING IS ACTUALLY 10/9/10, less than 6 weeks from now! gulp!) . . . or would it be “safer” to wait for another week or two? To be sure my weight/distribution doesn’t shift too much, since I’ve been working out consistently since my nightmare fitting and eating more carefully??
Thanks for the advice/input/shared experience!!!
Post # 7
When I found my dress- I measured to be a mix of sizes top to bottom 8, 10, 12. We ordered a size 10. The dress I tried was 8 and obviously too small but still looked amazing. When my size 10 dress came in, i went for my first fitting and it was tight….too tight to be comfortable and feel good about it. One of the worst parts is that i took 6 or 7 people with me, and when i walked out of the fitting room, NOONE SAID ANYTHING! It was humiliating and i felt so sad. (i had been so excited for that day) After leaving the shop i was ready to go home and be done with that day. I told my FI and he’s been nothing but supportive. We’ve started working out and eating better, and i’ve lost 10 lbs so far, and need to keep going.
Like LADYSUNSHINE, my wedding is 10/9/10. My final fitting is tomorrow. I’m nervous, but i think 10lbs is enough to make a difference. Let’s hope i’m right!
You just have to remember that at the end of the day- your weight isn’t what matters. You’ll get where you need to be and you’ll feel better and more confident. You can do it! and you’re right….all you can do is hope for the best and try your hardest 🙂