Post # 1
Hello fellow Bees, today I tried on my dress for the first time. The dress was beautiful, BUT then I realised how stupid I’ve been to pick a dress I loved the look of.. Because I thought it would be altered to my needs..
First the lady in the shop told me it couldn’t be bustled because it’s made of tulle, and that I have to have at least two wrist loops instead. This is a problem bacuse I really, sincerely want to dance in my wedding, but how am I supposed to do that whilst carrying my uber-long train?
Problem number two: I thought it would be a piece of cake to shorten the dress, so that I could wear flats.. But the saleswoman told me that I needed heels to elongate and balance the dress, and that with shoes, I would not need to shorten it.. Problem is, if the weather’s good, I was hoping to dance the night away in the garden of our venue, on THE LAWN, in which I will sink in heels, or just possibly fall down if I should choose high wedges ( yuk!) Trying on the dress today witout heels, I quickly realised that I would step on the dress:(
Problem number three: I want the neckline altered to a deeper sweetheart, but I didn’t have the guts to tell her after first few setbacks.
And the biggest problem of all: Why can’t I just find my inner bridezilla because I really NEED her now, to tell the salespeople that I don’t want heels, I do want some cleavage, and I most definately want, nay, I need to dance in my wedding!!
Even though it’s not in my budget I am now seriously considering buying a tea length dress for the reception, just for the dancing, but nothing I look at even comes close to the lovely dress I have.. Which was quite expensive too! Gosh, I feel like such a fool for thinking that alterations would save me.
What should I do??
Post # 3
@Hanuk: find a new seamstress… You absolutely can bustle a tulle dress… And if you want to wear flats then tell them to hem it… It is your wedding and your dress… your seamstress so do exactly what you ask her to do
Post # 4
find another seamstress who is comfortable shortening the length and the bustle and the deeper sweetheart neck. the lady probably doesnt want to ruin the dress so there fore telling you what you cant have..it is a beautiful dress
Post # 5
@Hanuk: you def need to find another seamstress! It is possible. My dress was complicated bc of the layers but it just took a little longer And we did a French bustle. You’re spending a lot of money on your dress don’t let the salesperson tell you what u should or shouldn’t do. Find a seamstress that listens to what you want and is willing to work with you.
Post # 6
@Hanuk: My friend wore a dress with a similar skirt of tulle to this and she was able to have her dress bustled (it was like a 24 point bustle, but it could be done!)
Post # 7
I actually just tried this dress on, it was my runner up. The salon I went to said it would be no problem to bustle or hem, hemming is just the most expensive. A good seamstress can do almost anything! Get a second opinion, you don’t have to get it altered where you purchased! No worries, it will be beautiful!
Post # 8
First of all I think that your dress is unbelivably gorgeous, and your concerns about wanting to dance outside etc are completely reasonable. It’s your wedding, you should be able to wear flats or dance barefoot in the lawn all you want! Don’t let this crummy experience get you down. I agree with the PP that you should find another seamstress. It sounds like the one you are with now is a bit lazy/opinionated for someone who is supposed to be working FOR you! I am not an assertive person at all and I wouldn’t do well with a seamstress who was telling me I needed to do this or couldn’t do that, I tend to “trust the experts” and later realize what I wanted in the first case was completely reasonable. Your dress is too beautiful not to wear all night!
Post # 9
It’s so good to get some other opinions on this! As you can probably tell, speaking up is not my strong side, and I did tell them about the dancing and the flats, but I felt sort of ..run over.. So it’s really nice to get some support. And to hear that it can be bustled. Must try to get my courage up and tell them at the store!
Post # 10
@Hanuk: OMGOSH..this just sets me off…She cannot tell you you have to wear heels..that is ridiciulous. That is here mere opionion and that doesn’t make it true. She sounds lazy. Get someone you are comfortable with and can talk to about what YOU want and YOUR vision!!!
Keep us posted. I’m rooting that you find not your bridezilla but your heart of your vision 🙂
Post # 11
@Hanuk: Just wanted to say, your dress is beautiful.. Well worth the alteration headaches
Post # 12
oooh, and thank you all for the compliments on the dress, I really appreciate it:) Helps soothe a currently sleepless bride!
Post # 13
ARGH. IF i was there with you, i would run a verbal seam ripper right up one side and down the other of that seamstresses argument – she is LAZY or incompetent or BOTH. Your dress can be altered to bustle, your dress can be shortened, and you can change the neckline. For goodness sakes, this is back to school “Pattern making 101” – you already have the outline, you just need adjustments. If i lived in Norway, I COULD DO it…
that being said – we had an outdoor wedding and the bride (daughter) wore boots from oaktreefarms.com – they look like victorian boots, were very comfortable, had a blast dancing in them, and she could wear them with jeans after shes married.
She actually wore them with a Provonias LOL but it looked great. And she bought a size 10 trunk sample Provonias…SHE IS A SIZE 4. The seamstress did wonders and had so much fun redesigning – a good seamstress will enjoy making a one of kind dress off of a prebuilt dress for you…
Post # 14
That dress is gorgeous! I’m sure you can bustle a tulle dress. And you definitely don’t need heels. That seamstress sounds really unprofessional. Get a second opinion!
Post # 15
@Hanuk: What that lady told you was very wrong and you should be able to get a buste and have it shortened so I would just take my dress elsewhere
Post # 16
@montanamum: Couldn’t help but smile at your post, because I really like when people show their personalities in their wedding outfit. It took me AGES to find this dress, because I tried so hard to find a dress that suited my personality. Everyone who knows me, know how much I enjoy dancing, even the invitations will have “dress to dance” under attire. What an irony it would be if the bride had to sit still…