Post # 1
im getting married shortly and my fiancé is eager to try for a baby immediately. I am also, but I’m a bit apprehensive due to a very busy and important period in my career over the next five/six months. I suppose what I want to know is if any of you went through the early stages of your pregnancy while being extremely busy career wise? If so, would you advise it? Were you able to keep up eith the demands of a busy career and pregnancy? did sickness/tiredness slow you down? I’m 32, very healthy, size 4, 5 foot 2 inches tall and I have regular 30 day cycles. I also would like to keep the pregnancy quiet for as long as possible so how long do you think it will be before I start to “show”? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Post # 3
@MiseLee: even with charting etc theres no guarentee when youll conceive , most likely itll take a couple of months or more so being busy for the next 6 months might not be sn issue
Ho2 much you show varies from woman to woman (torso length, pre pregnancy weight) as does how pregnancy will affect you so im afraid we cant tell you. Not helpful i know! You may be exhausted or not even notice youre pregnanc0t and be full of energy
I wad mega bloated for first 3 or 4 months then it seamlesslt turned into a baby bump. Some people dont show till 6 months though!
Post # 4
I am a 5’2″ lawyer with a petite frame who is 30. I was very busy my first 7 months of pregnancy and it was very difficult – I was very very extremely tired and very ill. I was upchucking into my boss’ garbage can on conference calls and napping in the parking lot the like. I also showed very early – people could tell by 10 weeks. But, that said, I managed! As well, there’s never any guarantee that you will get pregnant right away once you decide to start trying – we were supposed to start right after our wedding, but my husband got in a serious accident, so that put us back 6 months, though we did get pregnant right away. And the other thing is – there’s never really an optimal time to have a baby – I could think of a hundred reasons why not to try over any period of time. It’s scary thinking about your life changing, and always a new reason to put it off once the old one’s gone. So I say dive in! Having a baby is pretty much the best thing ever.
Post # 5
@MiseLee: Well your first 5 months may be a breeze…or you may spend every night hung over the toilet, you may be anemic and ridiculously tired, you may have pains in your abdomen, back, legs…there’s really no way to tell what you experience might be. I say, if this part of your career is truly important put off the pregnancy until it’s almost over.
Here’s how my pregnancies went (in general)…
1) I had all the energy in the world, but I did get morning sickness a few times.
2) I was anemic and basically slept for 9 months.
3) Again anemic and sleeping.
4) I was not anemic, but tired and run down, I had horrible sciatica.
5) Again, not anemic, but after about 3 months I seemed to be in so much pain I just couldn’t wait for it to end.
And all 5 of them I had trouble sleeping at night.
Post # 6
@MiseLee: It can really vary person to person.
But from my own personal experience, I would not advise it during a busy/stressful time in life if you’re big into planning…
It has slowed me down greatly since week 4. I had to go to bed immediately after work, and I’d sleep in my office during my lunch hour behind my desk. Then the MS hit and that has been the devil… not feeling like yourself and like you’re going to vomit all over your clients is the most miserable experience ever.. I told my husband if we do this again, there is no way in hell I can fathom working through it again. It’s been hard and stressful to keep up with my job *which I can acknowledge that Im not giving 100%* But that’s my pregnancy.. you could have a very easy pregnancy, you just never know!
Post # 7
As the pp’s have said, every pregnancy is different- even for the same woman. I had 24 hr (not just morning) sickness for both, but didn’t show for a long time.
In my second pregnancy, I never did really HAVE to wear maternity clothes. I did wear them because I bought some cute things and they were more comfortable, but I could have managed without.
Post # 8
@MiseLee: I think I’m lucky in comparison to some ladies. I have some nausea and tiredness so far but not ott. I go to bed at 9pm and im ok. I think I’m still giving 90% in work but I’m definitely distracted and my focus is elsewhere.
Post # 9
@MiseLee: pregnancy is so unpredictable- you never know when you will show, what your morning sickness will be like etc. my friend is in a similar predicament- up for partner at her law firm next month, so she chose to hold off for a couple months to ttc. I’ve been luck with both pregnancies- no morning sickness and I started showing around 6 months with the first, but it really is unpredictable.