First Flight Ever and TERRIFIED!

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It gets easier! I was nervous my first flight, and now it’s like no big thing. Being stuff to entertain yourself, books, music, etc. If you’re not keeping busy, you’ll think about it too much. 

Post # 4
1252 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I hate flying, but talking to the pilots seem to always help me. They are always so relaxed, and calm.  You can always ask your dr. for medication. You don’t have to take it but it’s nice to know its available. I seem to focus on the business man on the plane. The one that reads the paper, seems bored, and drinks a lot of coffee. They do this all the time, if they can “I” can.  And let the stewardess know you are nervous, they can make small talk with you and keep you distracted.

Post # 6
42089 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@NellieBelly37:  Always keep in mind  that the pilot has a vested interest in a safe trip too.

Post # 9
457 posts
Helper bee

@NellieBelly37:  I didn’t take my first flight, until I was 20—I’m now 25, and I LOVE to fly. But before—-oh baby was I terrified! The height, the noise, fear of terrorism, mechanical issues—crashing… I now realize that the hype, and idea’s that were in my mind, were SO much worse than the reality of it. The reality–you get to your seat, prop a pillow behind your neck, buckle up, put some earplugs in, and get comfy. There’s worse things, like riding the bus—flying is so much more fun! Once your in the air—its actually very beautiful and peaceful. I hope this helps, and good luck!

Post # 11
1103 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’ve brought books or magazines and just left them on the plane before. Figure maybe someone else will read them!!

Post # 12
2064 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@NellieBelly37 if your biggest worry is fear if heights, you should be ok. I know lots of people who are afraid of heights and have no issues with flying. I’m also a little nervous about heights and fly all the time. It’s hard to describe, but when you are in the plane you have no concept of how high up you are. it’s not nearly as scary as looking over the edge of a cliff or a high balcony. If you’re nervous, maybe just don’t look out the window. I’m sure you will be ok. And, if you start to get nervous, just remind yourself that flying is much safer than driving, which you probably do everyday. 

Post # 13
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009


I have no advice or suggestions to offer, but I just want to say I’m with ya on the terrified to fly thing. I’m 33 & never have! I’ve had so many nightmares about being in a plane! Everyone always tells me the same stuff but I just can’t! Lol

Kudos to you for facing your fears & also being willing to serve your country!

Post # 14
117 posts
Blushing bee

My fiancé is terrified of heights, but planes and looking out the window don’t bother him. His philosophy is “it might be high from the ground, but if I fall, it’s only 2 feet to the floor of the plane”. It’s not like you can fall out of the window or open a door or anything. 




If you can’t keep something with you, maybe buy a cheap book/puzzle book/magazine you can throw away when you get there?


Post # 15
989 posts
Busy bee

@NellieBelly37:  I know a first officer with an airline, and he has flown hundreds of flights with no incidents ever. The rules for pilots are super strict – they have to have had enough sleep, they have to be alcohol and drug free, they have to have psychological testing, if they’ve been off work for a certain amount of time, they have to have more simulator training. They go through so many hours of training, for a multitude of different scenarios, and their sim flights are to a set location and go for the same amount of time as the flight would (so long haul flight sim training is like being on a long haul flight). They also do sim training regularly even if they haven’t had time off. Whenever I hear of a (rare) plane incident, and the plane and passengers were landed safely, it really confirms that these pilots spend a great deal of time training for everything that could possibly go wrong, so that if faced with that scenario in real life, they know exactly what they have to do. 

I’ve been on 6 flights by myself, including a 9 hour international flight. While I don’t love flying by myself, I know I can do it. The thing I really dislike the most about flying is how uncomfortable it is to be sitting on a plane for that long!

The heights thing you may not notice so much (not like standing on the balcony of a high rise) – you could opt for a seat away from the window, distract yourself with the inflight entertainment. It’s probably worse for you not having been on a plane before, you don’t know what to expect up there. The planes sometimes bounce around when they travel through clouds and air pockets. The bouncier parts are usually lower in altitude, but up at higher altitudes, there is less wind and clouds making for a smoother flight. The plane is noisy, sometimes the noise eases off (this is normal! I promise you the plane is still working!). Just take comfort in the fact that the pilots know exactly what they’re doing. They’ve chosen a job they spend their whole careers training for, and the training never stops.

When there are issues with a plane, they usually ground all the other planes that are the same model. The engineers are on to it, and the planes don’t fly until every potential issue is sorted out.

Good luck!

Post # 16
1952 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I went on my first and only flight at 15 years old. It was awful, because I was with my year 9 class for camp, and the kids in front and behind me were kicking and getting in my personal space. Ha. Just remember ear plugs or gum cos your ears pop and won’t unpop for at least a day. I had that problem cos I didn’t know any better. Otherwise, it was good!

Sorry, I probably didn’t help lol. You’ll be fine. I second the telling-the-stewardess idea. Hopefully it works out for you 🙂

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