First Hint of Guest List Drama

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

@Baroness_Meg:  …does she not drive? could they carpool with someone already invited? take a train? bus? etc. 

i feel for you, it’s gracious of you to extend them an invite – lots of people (maybe even myself) would not. they would consider their transportation their business that has no bearing on the guest list.

so kudos to you – but i think the aunt was in the wrong to even advise you of this – her husband’s dui and their subsequent transport issues are not your issue and to ask for two invitations on behalf of her transportation is unfair to you. 

Post # 5
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1304 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Why can’t your aunt drive?  I don’t think this should be your problem.

Post # 7
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42546 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Baroness_Meg:  I also don’t think this is your problem. They can take the bus, come the day before, stay overnight, whatever they need to do.

Post # 8
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

is there a way that she could take a bus to the general area and have someone pick her up?

how far does she live from where the wedding is? could you have a trusted family member go pick her up a few days prior to the wedding?

@ElbieKay:  not everyone drives. it could be a medical reason, or a personal choice. i know plenty of people who don’t drive, for either health reasons or personal reasons. just saying.

Post # 9
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3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

fuck i would say “sure they can come to the ceremony and dancing if you would like”

Just because she doesnt drive does NOT mean you need to be forced into paying for her kid and his gf to come for the meal. 

I dont understand the audacity of some poeple.  Like. if i were her i wouldn’t even mention it to you and would just have my kid drop me off. 

Post # 10
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687 posts
Busy bee

If I were in the situation that your uncle is in, I would just say I was unable to attend. If you can’t go without inviting other people, then you don’t go. They are the ones being rude and I would tell them that you won;t have enough seats or something.

Post # 11
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2247 posts
Buzzing bee

@lampshade:  “If I were in the situation that your uncle is in, I would just say I was unable to attend. If you can’t go without inviting other people, then you don’t go. They are the ones being rude

+1.

@Baroness_Meg:  “Well, I just think it would be incredibly rude of me to say, ok, out of all the guests, you two are the only ones who can’t have dinner, so I guess I am going to have to let them attend the wedding now.

Uh, no. You don’t have to invite them. This is your Aunts problem. Not yours. She is being rude, inviting two other people to your ceremony and then the dancing at your reception. Telling her no isn’t rude in the slightest!

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