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Me too! I'm also the oldest of my siblings, and none of my friends have gotten married yet either (even couples who have been together way longer than FI and I). FI is the youngest in his family and is older than me, so we've gone to some weddings for his friends and family, at least, but they were all so different (one was very 2009-trendy, one was laid back, and one was traditional) so we feel pretty comfortable in just picking what we want to do without worrying about what others are doing or what the old school etiquette books say.
I'm sure you've had this too as the oldest sibling, but I'm nervous about having to be a trailblazer. My friends have no idea how much goes into a wedding and I expect them to do things like RSVP yes and then just not show up because they don't think it's a big deal. And I'm already having issues with my parents and older relatives trying to explain to them what a wedding is like now, as opposed to when they got married. Sometimes being first really stinks!
ahh...i am also the first out of friends and family to get married. i am the youngest out of my sistes and i'll probably be the only one that ever gets married or hav an actul wedding. i've only attended 3 wedddings in my life, so i don't have much to go off of. either a $90K wedding or a 1K wedding....
The first out of our HS friends and families (and we are the youngest). Not the first out of our college friends.
I was the second out of HS friends to get married (but was engaged first). I am basically the youngest cousin so I'm almost the last to get married in the cousin field.
I'm in the same boat, kind of. I've only ever attended three weddings in my life, and am the second of my friends and second in my family to get married, so I definitely feel like it's a bit of a trial by fire. Thank goodness for google!
Me. I'm the oldest of my generation on my mom's side (and we don't have any contact with father's side) so I was the first marriage in the family after my aunts. I had attended their weddings when I was younger, but I didn't remember much about them. A couple of friends were married before me, but they didn't do the whole wedding thing. The up side is I didn't really have to "compete" with any other wedding (not that you have to anyway, but you know what I mean) and we were just kind of free to do as we pleased since I don't think the family had any expections really since we were the first.
I'm the oldest of the cousins on my side, so our wedding was the first one in a long time. And we were the first of our friends to also get married. Now, there's been a couple more and I've been loving it!
I'm the first on my mom's side to get married, and the first in my groups of friends. It kind of stinks because basically no one knows what the heck I'm talking about half the time, or they have very outdated notions about wedding traditions - but hey, look on the bright side - you set the standard! you don't have to live up to the glamor of or be compared to any other weddings.
Same with me! First of friends to get married and the oldest child. So while I have attended 4 weddings, I wasn't close to the people in any of them so I am trying to figure all of this out on my own. Super difficult. Luckily there are places like weddingbee for me to get tips <3
I am so the opposite. I only have one sibling married but FI's family has an average of 3 weddings a year. I couldn't imagine planning a wedding without have been to one! But the hive is the place to be for that. Good luck :)
I'm the oldest, and the only girl, in my family, so yeah... I'm definintely the first to get married there. And in my group of friends. It's weird.
I think the grass is always greener - I am the last person in my family and friends to get married. Its great that I've been to a ton of weddings and have lots of ideas, but I feel like it isn't quite as special...Everybody always remembers their first wedding. No matter what, everything is new!
I'm the first one in my family/circle of friends to marry and have only been to one or two weddings before, and even those were when I was a kid so don't remember much. It is a bit intimidating to be a trailblazer, but I actually prefer being first. I don't have to worry about "copying" someone else's wedding and my parents and friends trust my choices since they don't have a million assumptions about what a wedding "should" be.
I am the first one to be getting married. Of both family and friends. But I love it! Its extra attention 
We're pretty much the first in my family & our friends. The only other one of our friends that got married was our best man last summer. Really, we should have been the first, but for the most part we are.
I am the oldest girl in my family...and the very first child and grandchild to have a wedding.....My bestie got engaged the day before me but I will be the first one in my group to actually get married..
Yep, first one all around! I have never been to a wedding either, with the exception of 2 uber-casual affairs (1 held barefoot in my backyard, 1 was my parents' civil ceremony). I really, really wish that I had had the chance to go to some weddings; I'm afraid that I will overlook details just because I have no idea they exist!
i'm the youngest in my family and the first to get married...out of my highschool friends i'll be the 2nd one to get married, out of college friends will be the first..it's very exciting time for all of us=)
First in my immediate family, I'm the oldest. I'm also the oldest granddaughter on my father's side and the first granddaughter (on both sides) to marry too. As for the friends, I'm actually one of the last, so it's a blessing because my friends are mostly newlyweds and very familiar and helpful with the wedding planning.
My sister got married 5 years ago and I'm the first one since then. All of my best friends are single so its weird for me, and I kinda think some of them are a bit jealous as well, which makes me feel a bit rubbish :( x
FI and I are the oldest siblings in our families. I'm also the oldest cousin in mine. I was just thinking the other day how nice it would be to know how the whole family feels about weddings and what kinds of things to expect from everyone. It would be nice to have someone who knows how it goes to be able to give me some personalized advice.
I totally sympathize! Not only have I never been a bridesmaid before, but my bridesmaids haven't either! We're all so new to this...and the difference between me and everyone else in my bridal party is that I'm doing research (and gaining wisdom from you bees). So sometimes I have to remember that they may not know what I'm talking about!
I'm the first of my friends and I'm not close to my extended family.
It's weird because my parents' friends are all "oh, but she's so young!" and my friends are all still in school (I graduated early). Mix that with the fact that my FI is 4 years older than me and by no means the first of his friends or family to be married. I sometimes also feel weird about being married "so young" because I hail from a well-educated and mid-to-upper middle class background so people around me tend to marry when they're around 30. My BMs are my age and freaking out because they have NO IDEA what to do.
I'm so glad to be getting married but sometimes it feels very lonely because I don't have anyone to relate to! =\
I know what you mean... though some of my friends are getting married and my not so close cousin got married last year, I definitely feel kind of alone! My friends aren't close (there have been problems between us) but it definitely feels great to have the bee.
Also, I have a friend who's planning her wedding abroad for 2012... I can't wait for it to get closer so we can gush together! I love her to death, I think she's the only one who can relate to me... haha.
im the first out of my friends to be getting married. but a close frined is getting married about a month after me. its been great having to been able to help each other out since were both new to this wedding things and havent been to many weddings. - Out of my whole high school class, i would say that there are about maybe 10-15 people who are married..
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Is anyone else the first in their family and group of friends to get married? I am the oldest of five kids, and the only one out of college, so it was to be expected that I would be the first in my family. But I have many friends that are older than me (think late 20s early 30s) who are not married. This isn't really a problem except that I have never been in a wedding, and I have only attended 2 (when I was a teenager and was with my family). Sometimes I wish that I could have had some more experience attending others weddings to get a feel for what I like/don't like for my own!!
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